Originally posted by RedGod
reply to post by Honor93
So, if I see a good looking girl, sixteen or seventeen years old maybe, dressed to show a lot of skin and easily mistaken for 18 or 19, maybe even 20
(and yes, this is based on people I've seen), you're telling me I don't want to have sex with her for sex, but rather because I desire power and
control? Guess that's what you see all sex as then. Which is sad.
Yes, there are lots of ways to mitigate the risk of rape, one of them is not dressing like a target. I don't understand the immediate jump to
"You're blaming the victim!" When I say "If you dress in a way that highlights or enhances your sexual appeal, you will attract sexual attention.
Some men will not want to take no for an answer. You can reduce that risk by being only a touch more conservative. But if you don't, and something
happens, it's still the attacker's fault."
That "power and control" nonsense that's been fed to you as being 100% of the time is probably closer to 50%. Sometimes, it's just about the sex.
That doesn't make it any better or worse.
1st question - are you male or female, naturally? (not your online persona)
2nd question - have you ever been raped?
3rd question - if you have no experience, why present yourself like you do?
sensuality does not equal sexuality
sex is a decision - as you clearly indicate above
your desire is yours and you are responsible for acts emanating from it
no one is suggesting that you don't "want" to have sex ... but are you forcibly taking it?
actually, my sex life is quite healthy, vibrant, exploratory, playful and satisfying
(not that it matters)
as an adult who was raped (more than once in my life), i no longer dress conservatively for just that reason ... i dress most sensually, as often as
possible ... matter of fact, spend the most time naked (by choice)
what you are missing or ignoring is the fact that Most rapes are not of provocatively dressed women unless you are watching too much tv.
But if you don't, and something happens, it's still the attacker's fault.
well of course it is ... each is responsible for their own actions
the attacker
could choose to remove himself/herself from the temptation
the attacker
should be held accountable, he/she is the aggressor.
temptation is yours to manage as is my own.
sometimes ??? only between consenting adults, there is no other time forced sex is acceptable at any age.
btw, if any person "wants/needs" sex that badly, there is a professional on most corners, no need to rape anyone.