Does Anyone Know How to Get Rid of Self-Destructive Thoughts?

Can anyone give me some advice. By meditating I've come to realize that constant, pornographic thoughts are responsible for the anxiety and disconnection I feel around other people. I haven't looked at porn in 2 years, and I still have the thoughts. Does anyone know how I can rid my mind of the thoughts. I want to live in peace and joy, but I can't as long as these thoughts are running in my mind

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Are you a man?

We think about sex a lot.... just go with it man

Originally posted by timi0000
Can anyone give me some advice. By meditating I've come to realize that constant, pornographic thoughts are responsible for the anxiety and disconnection I feel around other people. I haven't looked at porn in 2 years, and I still have the thoughts. Does anyone know how I can rid my mind of the thoughts. I want to live in peace and joy, but I can't as long as these thoughts are running in my mind

masterbate?
you need to be happy with who you are. learn to accept things for what they are and try not to pay attention to the negatives in life
find a purpose or something to do and treat others with respect
youll feel a lot better about yourself if you can know you are helping others or doing some good

just imagine the man/woman you desire goes to the loo and s%#ts.
works for me.

doesn't matter whether you're male or female, porn isn't a bad thing! how else are we supposed to relieve some of our stresses eh!

i'm more concerned that you seem to think porn is something you shouldn't be watching.

personally i'd encourage you to wank yourself SILLY watching hours of porn till it's back to some kind of normal level, and then indulge every now and again .... that just makes you normal and human.

if you have other mental health problems that need attention, go and look up "eft technique" on youtube. after a 25 year smoking habit, i used eft (terrible name for it though) to give up, took me 10 mins and i had no cravings. it works for a lot of people so try it!

Have sex.......

Get yourself a girlfriend, boyfriend, or whatever your sexuality is.....

Man thinks about sex about every two seconds, that's normal. If you have a sexual relationship, these thoughts of sex won't just disappear, but at least you will be able to put SOME, if not all of your fantasy's into practice...

Get out there, mix, flirt and get some experience.........

Sex, nothing beats it...........Mmmmmmmmmmmmm..

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Hey man! I have sure-fire cure for you. Each time you're thinkin' of making sweet love, just think of

Jacqueline Stallone


Or you could consider...
Jocelyn Wildenstein


but if you don't roll that way, perhaps
Pete Burns is more your style?


Good luck!

IRM

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Built up sexual energy. Needs to be released.
Masturbation is a great way to relieve stress, or have intercourse with your significant other. Its not something to be ashamed of. I enjoy it >.>, and it will bring you close to said significant other

Originally posted by timi0000
Can anyone give me some advice. By meditating I've come to realize that constant, pornographic thoughts are responsible for the anxiety and disconnection I feel around other people. I haven't looked at porn in 2 years, and I still have the thoughts. Does anyone know how I can rid my mind of the thoughts. I want to live in peace and joy, but I can't as long as these thoughts are running in my mind

Acknowledge your thoughts and don't berate yourself for having them. Accept that you still have them. Eventually, they will go away.

Originally posted by ladyteeny
doesn't matter whether you're male or female, porn isn't a bad thing! how else are we supposed to relieve some of our stresses eh!

Obviously OP has a reason for posting this question. Perhaps porn is a bad thing for OP. Let's not tell people what's good and bad for them without knowing their situation, ok?

Originally posted by haven123
how is this a conspiracy or altrnete news please bin this thead ,1st its utter # and theres nothing releven about it,2ndand it pushes oter peoples theads down so in som insances dont get seen,regard's Haven

This post is in Offtopic: Health and Wellness forum. It is absolutely appropriately posted!

What's self destructive about those thoughts?

The only certain way to end thoughts of self destruction is to indulge yourself

ganjoa

Originally posted by ladyteeny
doesn't matter whether you're male or female, porn isn't a bad thing! how else are we supposed to relieve some of our stresses eh!

Obviously OP has a reason for posting this question. Perhaps porn is a bad thing for OP. Let's not tell people what's good and bad for them without knowing their situation, ok?


perhaps porn is a bad thing for OP? well if OP wanted people to know their situation then perhaps they would've shared it. lets not try and berate members without knowing the full situation, ok?

self medicate if needed. otherwise talk to a dr and get a script for an anti-anxiety/anti-depressant. worked for me.

First of all, sex is a natural thing for most living creatures, and for humans, porn is a way of expressing part of it by its creation or consumption.

Knowing the desire for porn is in you, you are only left with one option; accept that it is part of you, or it will gnaw at you and ultimately break you in some way.
It does NOT mean you have to consume porn to feel balanced and joyful, only the ACCEPTANCE of it being desired by a part of your SELF. Exactly like an alcoholic has to do in order to survive his/her ordeal. Once they recognize they desire the thing, they can begin to walk their life in a more constructive manner.

So, acceptance is deliverance. Copping with it is only hard because WE judge the others by judging they judge us.

"Know Yourself" said the Ancients. And accept it.

Go see a board certified hypnotherapist or NLP practitioner. They can show you how to deal with "self destructive" behavior, and turn it around by helping you change your perception of yourself. It's not magic. It will take persistence and consistency on your part. But it will change your perception of who you think you are, and allow you to accept who you really are. Until we accept who we are, we find it hard to be who we want to be.

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This may sound too simple but you need to find something else to think about.

What other interests do you have. Could you develop an interest in anything else?

So long as you focus away from unwanted thoughts and concentrate on thinking about something you enjoy you should be alright. It just takes a bit of practice.

Try looking around you at what is going on in your environment. There may be small creatures to watch or trees and flowers to enjoy.

Perhaps sport or music would be more your sort of thing?

Just find positive things and make a point of thinking about them. You'll soon feel the benefits.

you are having this thoughts because of the unbalance in your brain you created with your heavy porn use...
yourbrainonporn.com...

you need to balance the neurotransmitters and repair your cells!...right now your body is not able to absorb the dopamine that your hypothalamus is sending to your cells. This will cause negative thoughts.
your cells can`t absorb the dopamine because you have destroyed your receptors with the constant high doses of dopamine which you had during your old-porn days. when you are low on dopamine you feel bad and your body wants more dopamine and it sends a "signal" (thoughts about porn) how you could get it...that is the reason why you think so much about porn even you are not watching porn since two years.

this should help: www.sota.com...

it balances the neurotransmitters and it helps the body to produce atp (adenosine triphosphate) which than helps the cells to reproduce the needed receptors. after that the dopamine can be absorbed...and your sleep quality and well-being will shift dramaticaly...it usually takes a few weeks and you`ll feel a big difference...after a few months your brain is "repaired"!

embrace it? its natural what ya gonna do about natural instinct?

could condition yourself i suppose but that doesn't sound pleasant at all