posted on Sep, 7 2011 @ 03:54 AM
I'm sorry to hear of your loss John, it's a sucker punch to the guts when we loose someone so close. I'm afraid i have no words of comfort, as I
don't believe that there are any such words. Nothing I can say will take away what has happened to you and your family. Nothing I say will stop your
pain. Words seem so very trite at times like these.
We can offer support, a place for you to talk about your feelings and how much you're hurting, but we can't take that pain from you, I wish we
could, I truly do. Maybe we can lessen it for you, as you come to terms with your loss. I know talking on a forum with a load of people you don't
know can seem pointless to some, but I know from experience that there is kindness in a community like this, which can be so warm and loving that it
will help you deal with this up to a point.
As for contacting a loved one who has passed over, I wouldn't be getting your hopes up. There are methods you can try, and you may get some kind of
result from it, but wether or not this result is a figment of your imagination, will be for you to determin. I have a friend who talks to his
grandfather, who he was very close to in life. He said that at first, when he asked questions, he imagined what his grandfathers response would be to
the questions he asked. He could hear his grandfathers voice in his head, giving the answers he wanted to hear. He wondered if it was his mind
creating the answers, or if it truly was his grandfather speaking with him from the ether. Some years passed, and my friend has joined a spiritual
church. One of the speakers at this place was walking around, she stopped by my friend and told him something. She said "yes he can hear you, and yes
those are his answers" He said it blew him clean away, and since then, he talks to his gramps on a daily basis.
Keep your mind open to any possibility, but expect nothing, or you run the risk of being very dissapointed.
Keep your chin up John, be there for your family, they need you just as much as you need them.