reply to post by Doodle19815
No sweat. You're very welcome and very worth it.
Perhaps the following suggestions off the top of my head can be of value to you or trigger ideas of your own.
1. Do be sure you have the fitting medical checks for your symptoms.
2. If a major symptom changes in a significant way--seriously consider getting it checked again.
3. OUR THINKING DOES INFLUENCE OUR PHYSIOLOGY--A LOT.
4. STRESS--imagined and/or real DOES influence our physiology A LOT.
5. Breathing in 6-8 seconds and out 6-8 seconds changes our brain chemistry toward relaxation--doing so for 30-90 seconds can calm one down
6. Getting wound up over stuff we cannot change is not very practical or functional. We need to learn to do different things with the information we
are pondering than to get dysfunctional about it.
7. Take an inventory of the things you can use as relaxation faciliators. Use those things. e.g.
A) calming music
B) above breathing slowly
C) taking a walk around the block or through the woods or a park.
D) doing a craft, hobby, gardening, cleaning or art project
E) getting a massage
F) giving a massage
G) Visiting a greenhouse
H) Visiting an aquarium
I) petting pets
J) training pets
K) tens muscle groups feet to head or head to feet and relax very very very slowly paying attention to the sensations of relaxation.
L) Discipline yourself about thinking negative stuff to only 5-15 min per hour or a half hour out of every 4 or a half hour every 6 hours or some
M) Force yourself to think on uplifiting positive things AT LEAST an amount of time equal to what your negative thinking consumes. It takes practice
but is very doable. This is also a major way to overcome depression.
N) Avoid being around negative people.
O) Avoid allowing negative people to 'speak into your life' or just rag on, whine on within earshot. Escort them to the door; get headphones and
tune them out with pleasant music; get new friends;
P) Prep for the quake stuff as best you can. Trust God or your "higher power" for those things you cannot do.
Q) YOU CANNOT SAVE THE WORLD. IT's not your job. That was taken care of 2,000 years ago. HIS taking overt possession of the planet occurs after
R) Not being able to save the world is just reality. Letting that fact leave you dysfunctional STILL DOES NOT HELP ANYONE ELSE.
S) You MUST take care of yourself first, in order to be of any use to those you love.
T) Make a journal of at least one sentence per night--of good things about yourself; about your day; about your relationships; whatever you can be
thankful that's the least bit praise worthy. You have air, water, food, clothes, shelter, transportation, relationships . . .
U) If needed, make a different journal of things you'd like to work on improving over the next 1-3 weeks. DON'T LIST EVERYTHING. LIst the priorities
that you can make reasonable progress on.
V) Make BITE-SIZED STEPS OF PROGRESS toward those things--5-15 min is sufficient per day or per half day or every 3 hours--whatever works for you.
W) Calm yourself for 10-20 minutes per day--at the end of the day--whether listening to gentle music; white noise; wave sounds; bubbling brook sounds;
whatever that's truly calming. . . think on peaceful mountain, beach, forest etc. scenes. remember sweet times with sweet people; affirm yourself in
X) Insure you get 7-8 hours of sleep per night. IF you are tossing and turning--get up and read a boring book until you feel sleepy. Or lie there and
design a house floor plan; a gradening landscaping project; landscaping an aquarium; creating a piece of furniture; painting a picture--anything
that's complicated enough to occupy your mind without getting your adrenaline going. Worrying about not sleeping will keep you awake. Most insomniacs
sleep more than they think they do.
Y) Exercise, play a musical instrument; massage a loved one's hands or neck and shoulders; do a chore for a loved one; suprise a loved one with a
hand written note or act of kindness.
Z) Look in the mirror and tell yoursel 3 times, 3 times a day that you're PRETTY GOOD ALRIGHT!