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Originally posted by KingLeoric
If you have more then one don't pick a favorite. That is the worst thing you can do to a household of multiple children. If you choose one out of 3 the other 2 will be so messed up from it they may hate you for life. Or feel like they will never be good enough. It will psychologically mess with them.
The favorite would eventually let you down anyway. Why the other 2 would be trying to impress you. And you'd never get to fully bond with the others. So their good deeds would always go without the full attention they'd deserve from you.
Beyond that children are delicate creatures they all take and individualistic approach to raising. Some kids don't need alot of punishment while others need a little more. Some kids need more love then others. You get the idea.
Sit back may attention to them and they will tell you how's best to raise them. Not saying let them run the household. I'm saying their actions,words,who they are will tell you the best way to approach them.
You got to psychologically figure them out early. Once you do that you will learn to be the best parent in the world in their eyes.
I'm no parent would love to be one day! But I can tell you from the so called "raising" I got that I know exactly what (NOT) to do.
The main important thing is listen. And be supportive. Children don't like to feel like their not part of conversation or group. Once you cut them out they may one day cut you out. Dysfunction is no way to go.
If you and your partner don't stay together. MAKE SURE you don't let them have a pos step parent. It'll do nothing but cause misery in everyone involved.
Originally posted by creatureme
its wonderful! I am 25, and i am afraid.
Originally posted by creatureme
the world is already overpopulated.
Originally posted by creatureme
Am i being selfish? I am setting a new life to this earth, and I do feel selfish.
Originally posted by creatureme
I could easily think that this life might turn out to be a good one. A soldier for the Greater Good. But I also think, what if its not?
Originally posted by creatureme
I am now enjoying my last hours of consuming red wine.
Originally posted by creatureme
Sorry for being all philosophical in my last days as an individual without child. I just finished my education as a photographer and obviously i am not going to pursuit my dream anytime soon. What do you think?
Originally posted by creatureme
Do you have kids? Whats it like?
Originally posted by creatureme
Did you have any dreams you were pursuing at the time you find out you were going to have kids?
Originally posted by creatureme
I don't believe in massive destruction anytime soon, but I can feel something is going on. And that's why I am afraid.
Originally posted by creatureme
I am also very focused to eat healthy while pregnant, do yoga (A LOT) and do stuff like play classical music and so on, for my unborn child so that it might evolve to be a more spiritual being with a more intuitive sense then I have been myself, after i entered adulthood. I do not want to create a super child, don't get me wrong please, I just want it to be born with a more deeper perspective than I did
Originally posted by creatureme
and I will do my best to listen to my child more than my parents ever bothered to listen to me. I might have just been a more intuitive person if my parents just would have let me be when i was a child..
Originally posted by creatureme
(sorry for language, i am from Norway)
Originally posted by earthdude
How dare you spread lies that this is an awful world. This is a world filled with love, with amazing creatures being born every second. Why cast aside all the wonders that occur and all the beauty that abounds because someone told you this was an awful world? Be fruitful, multiply..
Have no regrets, life is an endless trail of possabilaties. Peace
Originally posted by billy197300
reply to post by creatureme
I have a beautiful 8 yr old daughter. Children are wonderful. The only thing that bothers me about what you said is that you have given up on your dream to be a photographer. That will eventually lead to having regrets. You need to live life and accomplish your dreams before having a child, because after you do life isn't about what you want or dream of anymore. It's all about the child and being a parent after that. Don't get me wrong, being a father is the most wonderful thing that has ever happened in my life but I lived my life before I had a kid.
Originally posted by creatureme
If I could choose my parents it would.