Conversation with a 6 year old.. (message?), page 3

reply to post by Deplume

Great post! I have a daughter that sounds very similar. only child, very serious in her play, very much a child (Mine like bunnies) yet she is also adult in many ways. But to your question about talking to her about the visitors, it really isn't a good idea to bring them up, an adults attention to something means a lot to a child. But if (she) brings it up it is important to allow her to talk, of course. You seemed like a tuned in Mum, so I doubt I'm telling you anything you don't really know. But when she brings them up the hard part is to keep any question you might have within the scope of her statements or questions. Try to stay as neutral as possible on the subject, that will help her feel comfortable in talking about any feelings or concerns. we have had visitors in our lives ( that's always so hard to say to someone...) Me as a small child, then my Son and now my daughter. I have always said that I have "two" only children, lol. Their ages are so far apart. So I have wrestled with some similar issues. About a month ago I had a dream that my daughter and I walked into our kitchen and saw an alien in the window,( there is more to it but that's the only part that is clear) it was an odd dream. but I didn't think much about it until about 2 days later when my little girl asked me if I remembered the night in the kitchen when the visitors were at the window. For a moment my blood ran cold and my head actually felt like it was spinning, People don't share the same dreams. And once I could answer I said "yep I do, why?" And in a voice that sounded so casual she asked me, "why did they come to the house this time?" I had to answer "I don't know" because I didn't and I was still reeling from some cold hard facts and trying to process the words " This time." And she answers her own question anyway with "I think they were just checking on us, they are worried about us.I couldn't ask who "us" was without sounding weird (nervous), so I just kept my mouth shut. she was done talking and went bounding on her way un-bothered. While these two stories aren't related apart from "visitors" I appreciate the chance to tell someone anyway. And I have had to think about some very odd conversations possibilities with my own little girl and thought I would share. Hope it helps you in some small way. And you might think about keeping a journal of things that your daughter says or does that stand out to you. Answers have a way of making themselves apparent when you look at the whole thing, Odds and ends can suddenly add up. Thanks again and best wishes. Earthmuffin33