Originally posted by blocula
i might "sound" bitter, but i'm not and the ability to make babies has been around a lot longer than money has. things are usually fine in a
relationship until marriage comes along, then people quickly realize that the doorway out of a relationship is locked, theres no more easy way
out...and my bitter sounding statement has nothing to do with personal experience. it has to do with guy after guy after guy after guy telling me how
they were rolled over emotionally and financially by women who lied and lured them in with sex and did "anything" the men asked them to do,then kept
on lying and told them they loved them,followed by marriage. then turned around and dragged them into court where the men are threatened with prison
and are forced to bow down and pay. these days, lots of women drift from men to men, totally uncaring about the trail of emotional wreckage they are
leaving behind them, for no other reason than the self satisfaction of i,me,mine greed...
For pity sake.. I said security for raising the child.. in this society that equates to money; and in most societies it equates to material wealth of
And really.. do you think men don't lie to us women with promises of love or whatever else they have NO intention of delivering on, just so they can
get in our pants?? The only difference is it takes a lot longer to raise a child than trick a gal into having sex, so a woman may feel the need to
carry on the deception longer. And if the men are the fathers of the children, then it is their obligation to assist in their raising. If men keep
sneaking out of that obligation, the women are just going to get sneakier and smarter about getting the money they need for the task of child rearing.
And sadly way too many men DON'T take responsibility for the child they've created which is why the legal system got dragged into it. Now if you
guys would just keep it in your pants and use protection when you don't, you'll be able to avoid a LOT of that 'women ripping poor little old you
And emotional wreckage? Most of that wreckage is from an abusive childhood that the guys so don't want to deal with, or even admit. That's why they
choose the abusive women they do! It mirrors their family of origin issues. Thus the woman is only bouncing on the trampoline of that earlier abuse.
And most likely she has the matching and opposite side of the abuse situation from her own family of origin. People pick people that they recognize
the patterns of; it's a comfort zone thing... you knew how to deal with mom or dad, and essentially you'll know how to deal with someone who reminds
you of them on an unconscious level. And there is always that desire to 'fix' one's childhood, by fixing people like those caregivers in your adult
And really, if someone is too stupid to figure out they are being lied too, then they are in for some grand learning opportunities eh?? I mean, fool
me once, shame on you---fool me twice (or for 20 years!), shame on me!