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Originally posted by CynicalDrivel
reply to post by amazed
It's not about a liscense to hit or not, it's about the vast majority of the kids who are in trouble now have parents that don't spank. Hitting in and of itself is not the only thing that determines whether or not you go to jail.
Originally posted by chasingbrahman
Originally posted by CynicalDrivel
reply to post by amazed
It's not about a liscense to hit or not, it's about the vast majority of the kids who are in trouble now have parents that don't spank. Hitting in and of itself is not the only thing that determines whether or not you go to jail.
Wouldn't it be more accurate to say that "the vast majority of the kids who are in trouble now have parents that don't discipline"? Isn't that the goal of hitting little ones? If your phrasing is more correct, I have to wonder if hitting is a little about discipline, and a little about mom or dad getting to let off some steam.
Originally posted by CaDreamer
yes the bible commands parents to beat their children if they dont listen. if they continue to not listen the bible commands them to kill thier disobedient children...gotta love that god of love...edit on 16-8-2011 by CaDreamer because: (no reason given)edit on 16-8-2011 by CaDreamer because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by CynicalDrivel
Some times it is. It certainly is by the time you get to the thought of, "I can't hit them hard enough to get them to mind me." Some kids can be disciplined without ever touching them. Others need not only boundaries, but fear as well--which is delicate. Too much can ruin them as well. Now that's a can of worms.
As for parents who don't discipline. Roughly half of them do attempt to discipline, yet never hit, and still have kids that they cannot control.
Sorry, when the parent is at the doctor's office holding her breath to get her way with the doctors, I'm not expecting little jimmy to behave for the other adults unless someone swats him on the rear. (Actual experience of my mum's at the place she works, btw.)
"He who spareth the rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him correcteth him betimes" (Proverbs 13:24) and "Withhold not correction from a child: for if thou strike him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and deliver his soul from hell." (Proverbs 23:13-14) Deuteronomy 21:18-21 If a man have a stubborn and rebellious son, which will not obey the voice of his father, or the voice of his mother, and that, when they have chastened him, will not hearken unto them: Then shall his father and his mother lay hold on him, and bring him out unto the elders of his city, and unto the gate of his place; And they shall say unto the elders of his city, This our son is stubborn and rebellious, he will not obey our voice; he is a glutton, and a drunkard. And all the men of his city shall stone him with stones, that he die: so shalt thou put evil away from among you; and all Israel shall hear, and fear.
Originally posted by nuttin4U
I would LOOOOOVE for you to give me a taste. AND, i'll even give you my address. Mr KEYBOARD WARRIOR! Come and pay me a visit....and i'll show YOU some discipline. U2U me, and i'll make that happen! Brave man!!!! You might want to bring back up...to make it a 'fair fight'. Then, i can show my daughters another lesson....how to beat your opponent to a pulp. Or at LEAST til they tap out! FEEL ME?
Originally posted by kindred
My cousins had it even worse, their mother would bash them over the lower back with a iron poker. (ouch, it hurts just thinking about it, lol) and they all turned out ok.
1. Turning out OK is vastly different from turning out perfectly. People can and do get over and rise above the most evil of atrocities. I find that when I was younger, some of the really negative things that happened to me were what I let consume my life--and believe me, that had absolutely nothing to do with spankings. Now, it's far different. There's no point in playing a victim for anything or anybody.
Originally posted by petrus4No, they didn't turn out ok. Trust me.
"Turning out ok," is not defined purely by the ability to hold down a job. I've read about a woman with 92 different personalities due to child abuse, who was able to do that.
It's not about a license to hit or not, it's about the vast majority of the kids who are in trouble now have parents that don't spank. Hitting in and of itself is not the only thing that determines whether or not you go to jail.
No, they didn't turn out ok. Trust me. "Turning out ok," is not defined purely by the ability to hold down a job. I've read about a woman with 92 different personalities due to child abuse, who was able to do that. A lot of contemporary Americans think they've "turned out ok," in which case, it is of course completely logical that the country is in many ways experiencing a re-enactment, of the early period of Nazi Germany.
Do you know how many parents I know who are verbally abusive, but have never laid a hand on their kid?
Originally posted by NightGypsy
reply to post by CynicalDrivel
It's not about a license to hit or not, it's about the vast majority of the kids who are in trouble now have parents that don't spank. Hitting in and of itself is not the only thing that determines whether or not you go to jail.
Cynical, are you kidding me with this? I venture to say it's more a reality that the vast majority of kids who are in trouble now have parents who used spanking excessively to the point of abuse! The kids in trouble today are angry.....angry at their parents because they take no interest in them, angry that they don't spend quality time with them, angry that they abuse them verbally and physically, and they watch their parents engage in unnecessary drama with people in their lives on a regular basis. The kids who are in trouble are looking for love outside of the home because they aren't getting it from their parents. They do things that generate negative attention because it's the only kind of attention they have been successful at getting.
Not only that, too many parents complain about their children failing to show them respect when the reality is, they have shown little respect for their children. They have failed to instill in their kids the importance of showing respect to others in a number of ways:
* By allowing their kids to watch them be verbally and physically abused by others and and doing nothing about it.
* By verbally abusing their kids and embarrassing them in public while cursing at them and threatening them with physical violence
* By promoting vengeful ideas with their words and actions when they have disputes with others.....
These are just a few examples......
This has nothing to do with lack of spanking, and everything to do with lack of ability to communicate effectively and respectfully....and to live by example.edit on 2-9-2011 by NightGypsy because: (no reason given)
The difference? As long as I play the victim, I will be the victim. So I can either dwell on the fact that my father spanked my bottom as a small child or I can be relieved that he cared enough to swat me when I wanted to put my fingers in electrical sockets.
I'm not taking away from the kids who are physically abused. I'm just pointing out that if you eradicate spankings, as a lot of parents have, you still get little hoodlums that are going to do serious jail time.
Do you know how many parents I know who are verbally abusive, but have never laid a hand on their kid?