posted on Aug, 14 2011 @ 08:08 PM
Seeking out other adult adopted adults out there on ATS.
I was adopted at 4 months of age...many years ago...45 to be exact. I have 2 older adopted brothers, one died at the age of 5, and younger adopted
My adopted parents always reminded me how much I owed them,,,they "rescued" me after all.
My birth mother found me when I was 16...I will never forget answer that call from my birth mother...I KNEW her voice!
I was 16 (a few days after my 16th birthday)...I came home from school, the phone rang, I answered it. The voice on the other end said "Is X there, I
responded, this is X...the other end become silent...Some thing inside me said "this is your mother"...
Moments later I heard, "I am your mother"...I already Knew she was. it was a voice I never heard before, yet I already knew her voice (if that makes
I found out that I had an older brother (full - blooded), who I eventually met a couple years later. I have 4 younger 1/2 brothers. I went from
having an older adopted brother (I had 2 in my early years) and an adopted younger sister...to an older full blooded brother, 4 younger 1/2 brothers,
an adopted sister and two adopted brothers. My "family" exploded in a matter of moments.
My adopted parents were not like many I have known. They are very 'threatened' by my biological parent(s). I had no choice in being given up. I had
no choice to be adopted. It was not any thing I had control over. Yet, even in my mid 40's, my adopted mother thinks she can control me. She is still
threatened by my adopted mother and brother, and half brothers.
For years, I tried to protect her...keep her from "the truth", that I had a relationship with my brother, 1/2 brothers, and natural mother. I wanted
to know where I came from. I wanted to know why she gave me up. I wanted to know my brothers. I just wanted to KNOW every thing!
I think it is natural. I think any adopted person wants to know where they originated from.
I think its normal, natural, and part of human nature..not some thing a one born into a family can ever understand. If you know you are being raised
by others other than your own parents..you will "naturally" have questions. Until they are answered, they will remain.
Any other adopted adults out there on ATS?