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Stacey says she doesn't think kids growing up in lesbian households get teased more than other kids; it's just that when they do get teased, the target is the non-traditional household, rather than some other aspect of their life or identity.
"It's not that men don't matter; it's that men can be just as good as women at parenting," said Karen L. Fingerman of the Child Development & Family Studies at Purdue University, who was not involved in the current study.
In fact, lesbian mothers rated their 17-year-olds higher in social and academic skills, and lower in rule-breaking and aggression, than did mothers of teenagers who also had a father.
Originally posted by TheRedneck
"centuries of accepted wisdom"
Originally posted by TheRedneck
these findings fly in the face of centuries of accepted wisdom.
Originally posted by TheRedneck
It will take more than a couple activist studies with questionable objectivity to convince me that there is no need for both genders in rearing children.
...i understand that your version of "accepted wisdom" carries more weight than someone else's version when it comes to you and your family... i'm that way too...
...the problem is people who want to legislate their version as the only right way... we all should have the right to choose which conventional / traditional or modern ways we incorporate into our family...
...but those studies werent trying to convince you to change your style of parenting... they're trying to remove some of the disinfo and stigma that a lot of society has attached to same-sex parents...
...besides, there are tons of single parents who have raised a child of the opposite gender and the child turned out to be a wonderful adult... there are also tons of opposite-gender parents that live in the same home and their kids turned out to be horrid...
Originally posted by petrus4
Gay people need rules, to the same extent that heterosexual people do. We need to give them marriage, and we need, in general terms, to assist them in providing themselves with a legal and cultural subtext that allows them to have as full and rich an existence as the heterosexual population.
Originally posted by TheRedneck
There are so many influences on children that the effects of one will require serious research and attention to detail, something which is lacking in the examples I was given. That is blatantly obvious. It does not mean such a study cannot bring light to the issue, only that simplistic activist-driven studies spun to promote an agenda are worthless.
TheRedneck
All the anti-gay studies/reports - - from - say - religious leaning believers - - - must also stand up to criticism.
I am glad to see you are cognizant of the need for a male role model in a child's development. Here is a hint: if one is not provided,chances are he'll find one on his own eventually. Pray that the one he finds is a good role model.
Originally posted by TheRedneck
reply to post by Annee
All the anti-gay studies/reports - - from - say - religious leaning believers - - - must also stand up to criticism.
Absolutely! I pay no attention to them either. I want a clinical study, not a push for activism either direction.
I am glad to see you are cognizant of the need for a male role model in a child's development. Here is a hint: if one is not provided,chances are he'll find one on his own eventually. Pray that the one he finds is a good role model.
TheRedneck
As far as a clinical study - - more subjects and time is needed. But - just because something is accepted as "best/norm" - - doesn't necessarily mean it is. It is a different world today.
Originally posted by ThirdEyeofHorus
but the bible states, "I am Alpha and Omega, the beginning and the end. Yin and yang balance.
Originally posted by Domo1
reply to post by TheRedneck
I am glad to see you are cognizant of the need for a male role model in a child's development. Here is a hint: if one is not provided,chances are he'll find one on his own eventually. Pray that the one he finds is a good role model.
I actually agree with what you've said for the most part but let me ask something. What about single mothers? Are we to assume they are incapable of raising a well adjusted child? I've known some wonderful people who's fathers died young, left early etc... I may be misunderstanding your position here.
Originally posted by Annee
Originally posted by ThirdEyeofHorus
but the bible states, "I am Alpha and Omega, the beginning and the end. Yin and yang balance.
I do not care what the bible says. At all.
This is today 2011 - - - not 2000+ years ago.
Yes - we can take some great philosophies from ancient times - - - but they must apply to the changes in society and the world we live in today.
With the divorce rate somewhere around 50% for traditional family - - and who knows how successful the dynamics are of the parents who choose to stay together. Staying together does not guarantee anything.
In my childhood - I was closer to my father. He was the more spiritual artistic one. My mom was into sports and had been a physical education major. Each child has needs. Not all boys need a man - - and not all girls need a female presence. (unfortunately my father ran off with another woman when I was about 7).
Life/society is no longer blank and white - - in gender roles - - or parenting.