posted on Aug, 12 2011 @ 10:53 AM
reply to post by AdamAnt
Couldn't agree more. I don't hate social situations because of the individual people, I hate social situations because of the non-stop filler
conversation. I don't want to talk about the weather or the newest trend. Is it not fair? Am I expected to?
Yes, to some extent. My mother is a social butterfly with way too many acquaintances. Every time I visit her, I have to be introduced to at least two
new people. It's incredibly annoying because she's already told them about me (typical mother) and yet I really don't want to talk about myself. I
also don't want to talk about the BS that people in those social circles want to talk about, and honestly, when they do talk about politics or
society, I'm faced with the typical partisan talking points and (as a former student of Anthropology) some rather run-of-the-mill stereotypes about
other countries, languages and cultures that I would tire myself out pointing out their inaccuracies and, from a social perspective, I would be seen
as rude or know-it-all for correcting what they should already know.
Honestly, that is why I avoid social interaction to a large extent. If I go to a bar with friends, I'm supposed to talk about sports and getting
effed up. I really don't care, it's the same pragmatic BS. Pragmatics is a fancy linguistics word for filler language that serves a social function
beyond the literal meaning of the words spoken (ie, how are you? [nobody really wants to know], it's hot in here [turn down the air], etc.). Bar talk
is just pragmatics to have a social circle jerk, if I could be so blunt. At the end, there was nothing said that had any substance whatsoever and if I
were to say anything other than the norm, I would leave my interlocutors in the dust because they have no frame of reference to discuss other topics.
(So, then I become preachy or opinionated).
The article is right, being introverted does make a person feel rather aloof, left-out, awkward, uncool, etc. It's because we find your incessant
extroverted BS to be totally boring. When I was in high school, it was hard to fit in because I didn't talk about all that junk my peers did. What I
talked about was considered weird and random. That's only because the weird and random things had real substance to them. Back then, I felt pressure
to not be individualistic and act in a way that I might be accepted. Now, I find those people totally vapid and banal and have no desire to be like
them whatsoever. My how the tables have turned.