reply to post by Char-Lee
I pondered over your first words of me having a hard time. I had to figure out why you might say that because honestly, this man was extremely abusive
to me in many ways even to the days before he died. Come to find out, he basically committed suicide. I am in the opinion he did commit suicide. He
was a kidney transplant patient and knew about what killed him and could have prevented had he bothered to do so. He got cellulitis, this is what
killed him in the end. Now, before anyone begins on me saying I am wrong. Do not do so unless you have been through a transplant situation or are a
Dr. We, him, his family, and myself, were all told at least 3 times what to look for, what to do, and how to handle a cellulitis situation. For him,
immediate Dr or hospital, so he can get antibiotics and they can check the kidney. Period, there is no ifs, ands, or buts. He saw and did not go, he
knew and did not go, this is a self inflicted suicide. He died in front of my kids, so yeah, I am having a hard time with the fact that he did this
and how selfish it was. (he had tried two times prior as well to off himself.) Also there is no way he did not know what was going on. We had
basically three classes on this very situation. No excuse. So I am not being cruel when I say what I do. I know the medical side of his condition
because I was there when he had to go to the hospital for that kidney situation because he drank Antifreeze to kill himself the second time and we
spent a year in the hospital for that fun try and then six more months after that when the new kidney came in and he went through the transplant. Just
so you know, they did the autopsy, the kidney he had been given as a gift of life, was fine, it had at least 10 more years if he would have taken care
of himself correctly. I won’t go into the fact that if the Drs would have known he was going to end like this and not appreciate the fact he was
given life, he would not have had the kidney period. They only give organs to those who want to live, not die. (I am an organ donor.)
I did talk to the children last night. They are doing so much better than I thought they would be. I am very proud of them since I have been through
the same thing. Thankfully, they have strong family support I am so grateful for.
I was talking about the ironies of how they died not what their character was. I am not even sure why that came up. Both my Gram and Mom were amazing,
caring people, yet I did not mention that. It was about the death factor itself, not the people behind the death. I quite agree Scrooge can turn to
Kris Kringle. That is why we have near life experiences. As far as the suffering for those who are wonderful, both my Gram and Mom went through this
as well. Those of us who suffer, man if you knew my life story you know why I say that, suffer. It makes us stronger. Look at what the Saints go
through. It is our honour to be chosen to learn and go through this and I don’t think any of us who go through this humbling would disagree. The
nasty people know the 48 laws of power and apply it thus they prosper.
I am sorry to hear of the passing of your father so young. Wow, I thought I was young. That is wild with the fact your lil one was born in the same
hospital. Perhaps he was there with you.
Interesting with your brother as well. Again I am sorry for your loss there. Odd of the similarities there as well.
So yes, in a way you are right, was having a hard time, now I know why. I knew before he passed, I knew it was off, I wanted the truth to come out if
that makes sense.
I have been waiting for this when he moved back home and his weight went up to over 300. Another reason he would not have gotten the gift of life.
Sorry if your ex was even close to mine. It is a life you could say. Very teaching.
I am sure when his family starts to go, because much like you say they were family as well, in this case they still are to a point. I was close to
some and surprise, surprise, even his mom and I might get along. There are blessings in all bad. My nickname is Mary Poppins so you know if that tells
you my site on life.
Thank you so much for sharing. It is nice when we can connect.