posted on Aug, 1 2011 @ 02:55 PM
I'm all for Live and Let Live. I understand how people would feel that this is no-one's business, and that we shouldn't impose our ideals on
someone else. I get that. I even see how this could be simply an eccentric mother and son broadcasting their lives on the interweb. I certainly
understand how interfering in people's lives can lead to disastrous consequences, even if it's thought to be for the good.
But it's the subtext that makes me pause. Anyone who has experienced emotional/psychological abuse and manipulation will easily pick up on the
inconsistencies and darker tone of even the tamer videos. Emotional abuse can sometimes be far worse than physical abuse, partly because there are no
tangible wounds to point to, and mental injuries heal very slowly, if at all. It's complex and abstract, and it's not normal. It's not normal if
this kid has been sheltered from any social development other than exposure to his mother and youtube. Being a minor, he bears no responsibility for
the fact that his mother has decided to post many of his developmental years for all to see. How would that in itself affect a child? That in itself
is effed up for a parent to do to a child, because she has opened the doors to people, well-meaning and not, to become involved. Even if it wasn't
true, how would you feel if you were 15 and people all over the internet are saying your mother is insane, or sexually abusing you? She bears some
responsibility in creating an environment where that is allowed to happen. How would this kid even be able to ask for help if he only has his mother
to turn to and that mother is mentally unstable? Just the inconsistencies alone of growing up with a parent who is mentally ill does a number on a
kid's psychological well-being, because he will spend a lifetime in conflict because of his skewed understanding of the world if it's all been about
his mother, and who he is in the context of her.
ATS is made up of such a diverse group of people, all with different backgrounds and experiences. I would expect that a few must have an education in
psychology, psychiatry, or behavioral science. I would be interested to hear the opinion of someone with these credentials.
It's a tricky situation. Being that he's almost an adult now, I'm not sure if removing him from his only known environment would be beneficial.
However, I do believe the mother is ill and needs help.