If its a private business, the owner can do whatever the hell he wants. No one is forcing anyone to enter the business.
Ima write a book here.. skip if you wish
I have kids and Id LOVE the option to have a night away from my own.. and others.. at a nice restaurant or etc. Im sick of folks who cant control
their kids. I can control mine.. so I know it can be done.
We were at a grill the other week and this woman refused to keep her kids from grabbing
food from other peoples plates at other tables. The kid didnt come to our table.. probably he could see Id have gnawed his arm off if he would have
gotten close to my plate by the look in my eye.. but for Gods sake : control your spawn. Babies? They cry.. its normal. Whats not normal is not
soothing the child and ignoring its crying or not having the common courtesy that most other civilized people do of removing the child to a private
place and caring for it. I NEVER let my kids cry and ignored them as I see some do in public. I was a big kid when I had my own. I knew that when I
CHOSE to have my kids, there were some things that I wouldnt be able to do just because I wanted to. I chose to be a parent.. and sacrifice things
that were contrary to raising a whole child or things that were disruptive to other people who have a right to enjoy themselves... who did not chose
to have kids or being them along. I recognize I am not the center of the universe and my wants do not necessarily trump all others wants around me in
public. This is the thing that irks me about parents bringing their babies and young kids to the movies. I did not do this.. the loudness of the
movies, the absurdity of thinking a child can sit still and silent for over an hour, and the simple fact that the world doesnt revolve around me were
I am annoyed by babies crying incessantly when I am out with my husband and we are trying to enjoy ourselves on a rare evening without our own kids,
but to think that the child is using its only means of communication and being ignored by the primary person who could help it.. well that just angers
me.. toward the parent. The infant is completely reliant on this uncaring oblivious parent... how terrible for the little thing! Maybe stop thinking
of your own pleasure and care for the child you chose to give birth to. May take some sacrifices and youll have to realize that your demands of
instant gratification concerning your wants may need to be curbed.
I dont hate kids.. I hate out of control parents. EIther they seem to be ignoring the kid, being inconsiderate of others, or kicking the crap out of
their toddlers in public for being toddlers ( actually seen that one) .. no sense in any of it. For those that think its natural for a kid to behave
like an animal.. youre wrong. Its NOT normal and you are laying absolutely NO foundation for that child growing to be a self disciplined productive
human being. It starts at birth.. you must lay these foundations... mainly with your own actions toward the child and in its presence at first and
then by behavioral demands later. It really isnt rocket science.
You just cant undo some of the stuff parents set up with these kids when they are so small.. I see it daily in what I do. The amazing thing is I very
strongly demand that rules and protocol be observed in my presence and my bubble. Kids I work with and kids that come to my home that are my own kids
friends. SOME of these out of control kids ( who were the food throwing hellions as toddlers Im sure) CRAVE discipline and correction. They dont get
upset much when I yell "PULL YOUR G-D pants up I can see 4 inches of ass crack" or " are you a whore or just wearing the uniform?" terrible yes,
but if you see an 11 yr old showing everything she barely has and the looks men give her with no parent to protect her.. youd understand the issue.
Sometimes you need to dip in your own pocket to buy them appropriate clothing becausae their parents go out of their way to dress these precious
children in inappropriate ways to gain attention.. I dont get it. Anyway.. They respond to the praise and positive reinforcement when they please
me.. because thats what invariably follows compliance. If there is lip or noncompliance.. they are removed until they do. Im talking disenfranchised
teens and gang members... street kids. No one cares about them.. I do. I do and demand compliance.. or they arent around me.They want to be around me
only because I have something they want.. if it be discipline, someone who cares, help, food, clothing, shelter, an ear, etc. Im definitely not so
great they behave just because I ask... they are totally driven by what they can get because they have NOTHING and no future vision of having
anything.. and no concept of how to get what they want or need on their own other than taking it. Many of them are skilled predators and scammers (
even the very young ones) ... and learned it from the parents as the only way to get their own simple needs met. As they get older, the wants come in
over the needs... and they will do whatever comes to mind to get it.. regardless of who it hurts or the consequences. Realize that many times with
just the minimal demands of self discipline and being "harsh" but fair with them, this child may have had a very very different future. How can I
complain about generational welfare families, entitlement abuse, teen violence,gangs, teen pregnancy, abortion used as birth control..etc.. if Im NOT
doing my own part in trying to make a difference? It all starts as a child and instilling self discipline.. and kids who behave like animals with no
parental intervention. This is a HUGE problem that is growing every day.
Now these kids are in large groups in my area and others.. and taking what they want with no thought of consequence. if they see it and want it.. they
grab it. Sounds like a toddler.. doesnt it? Thats about the age they are stuck at.. that infantile mentality that was never cultivated into a more
mature and responsible mentality by caring parents or an intact culture. I see it , I want it, I take it. The mob thing we are having more of here
that Ive spoken about before.. its the same thing. They want to do something so they do it with no thought of consequences or thought of others. Its a
very very infantile mentality and frightening that its so prevalent. See the Chicago mobs recently. Beating, taking things, trashing things, and even
defecating on the sidewalks.. teens and 20somethings.. sounds like the behavior of a group of 3 yr olds left on their own without adult supervision to
me. Where and when do you think the idea that this behavior was acceptable started??
There is sometimes NO concept of accountability or personal responsibility... and it all started with the parent allowing them to be wild and unruly
by setting NO parameters as younger children or attending to that infant with love and care, rather than viewing the infant as a bother that can be
Im old, I can be grumpy if I want ,and some people should have stuck to babydolls or pets and left the whole childbearing thing alone.