posted on Jul, 29 2011 @ 06:15 PM
I find this interesting, in particular the corporal punishment debate.
My own parents never once laid a hand on me. They spoke to me the same way they spoke to adults at all times. It simply never occurred to me to defy
I was punished through loss of privileges (going to visit other children and so on) or property (favorite toys, games etc.). It worked out well. I was
told what the punishment was and never was there a parole or shortening of a punishment. In other words, they were parents and I was the child. Why
would they have needed to hit me like incompetent parents do?
I did the same with my daughter as a single parent after my first wife became a raving alcoholic and I took custody. Never had a problem due to it and
ended up with a respectful child who obeyed me pretty much all the time. No problems in schools and now at a University on full scholarship.
Where I saw people who had problems was with those who did not understand that how your child acts by age 3 is what that child will be like. You
smother and coddle while young because you think you can wait until they are older, you cause your child's behavioral problems and bear all the
guilt for it. You don't take charge during the terrible two's, you have lost that battle due to incompetent parenting. You will fight that battle
for the rest of your child's life possibly, because you could not do your job while they were forming their personalities.
Being respectful of others goes to this other issue. If you take your too young children to a place where people are trying to enjoy adult dinners
with a date or friends, you the parent are the problem, not the kids. Why people do that amazes me. If you don't have enough to hire a babysitter or
if your own family won't watch them, why are you at an expensive place in the first place? Kid's don't like those situations either. Have you
forgotten how it sucked as a young child to be drug along with the adults? Kid's act up because it's the wrong environment for them in the first
place. They don't want to be there anymore than the other patrons want them there. So why???? You so incompetent you can't even see that your
children don't want to be there?
I actually had one close friend use the Dr. Spock book (only people my age would know about this). Both his children are in Prison now, both for acts
of violence. I can't tell you how sorry he is now. He was a nice man who thought older people were dumb when his kids were born and more or less
ruined their lives trying to prove his parents wrong. Sad, really sad.