posted on Jul, 25 2011 @ 12:25 AM
It is interesting to consider the different views on whether this boy is being tortured or not!
I don't know if it is applicable here, but in different cultures, in different communities, there are different ideas upon what is hurtful and what
My husband is french, for example, and when he first came to America and heard my brother (six at the time) saying "You hurt my feelings" when he
was told not to do something, it made my husband crack up. The idea of someones feelings being hurt has no meaning for him! A body can be hurt, but
not feelings- they are immaterial, they are totally within the realm of control of the feeler. Another cannot hurt your feelings, for him.
Well, I tend to disagree, to the extent that if a person has been taught that others can, with specific acts or words, hurt you this way, then you
shall feel exactly that, even if it is your belief system that is actually doing it.
But some cultures still believe that "sticks and stones can break my bones but words can never hurt me", and teach their children exactly that, and
they become adults who do not feel hurt by the opinions and words of others. I cannot claim to know the origin of these people or their beliefs, but
is it possible that the woman comes from a background in which feeling traumatized or tortured because someone else has a different opinion than
oneself isn't valid? And perhaps she would like to teach her son that same value?
I totally am compassionate towards those sensitive souls that see this as torture and would experience it as so if in his place, but really such high
sensitivity something you want to encourage and nurture in your child as well?