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I don't want to go into too much detail on my personal situation, but to put it in a nutshell, I believe I may need to get a restraining order
against a man I used to date.
The wonderful folks on ATS are so great at giving advice, I thought I'd see what others thought.
To give some background:
1. Dated the guy over four years ago, but a couple of months ago, contacted me via email. I politely told him I wasn't interested. He became
beligerant and verbally abusive. Told him not to contact me again and if he did, I would consider it to be harrassment. He still responded with
another abusive email. I didn't respond. The next day, I printed the emails up, and took them to the police department the next day and made a
report. I told the police that I simply wanted a formal record in case anything were to happen (murdered, raped, house burnt down, etc.).
2. He lives 10 minutes driving distance from where I live.
3. He does have the potential to be violent. Although he was never violent towards me while we were dating, which lasted not even two months (if even
that long). He does have a strange fascination with violence.
4. He contacted me again today via email. I haven't responded.
Now for my question, should I just have the email he sent me today logged into the current police report or get a restraining order against him?
I've never been in this type of situation before and I know many ATSers have helped others through their own personal experiences, so I was hoping
you all could chime in and I could make a more informed decision.
Are restraining orders ever helpful or do they only further aggrevate the person?
I know I have to go to the police and have the email added to my existing file, but I want to be prepared with an answer if the officer asks me if I
want to get a restraining order against him. Plus, I don't want the officer talking me into something that may not be the best thing for me in this
situation. Are there any other options?
The last time he contacted me, I was hoping that if I just ignored him, he'd go away, but I don't believe he's going to give up that easily.
I'd also like to add that I live alone, but with a big protective dog and a trusty .38.
So, ladies and gentlemen, restraining order or no restraining order?
Thanks in advance!
Plus, you never know who else may be going through the same thing and this thread may help them as well