Originally posted by seeker11
So, according to you I should not to react to anything or be emotionally driven?? What's wrong with being emotionally driven?
Being reactive means you are being controlled to react in a predetermined way period.
You don't really have free will when it is blatantly obvious how you (an emotional person) will re-act instead
of taking a proactive approach at the obviousness of the truth.
Nothing in life is worth arguing, bickering or getting mad about....NOTHING.
Being emotionally driven means that your mindset gets compromised due to "feelings"
-meaning you can't possibly be rational with your rationale! Make sense?
Originally posted by seeker11When I FEEL (yes I said FEEL) that you're attacking me, then I will respond. Unless that was a test of your
own to see if you could attack somebody and see how they respond then judge them based on them giving you the reaction you were searching for in the
If you ever "FEEL" you are being attacked, and since I didn't use profanity nor caca poo poo insults...
Why can't you communicate to me that you're feeling attacked by my post instead of ass-u-me you are
and proceed to sounding emotionally irrational? Sounds simple, doesn't it?
Originally posted by seeker11And because I am a woman you think I will automatically be less rational than my male counterparts? I guess
that's a strike against me in your book of...whatever your book of strikes consist of. Why can't emotions and rational work together? I will not deny
my emotions they are a part of who I am. Don't forget about them yourself, they can be useful.
In my extensive experience....YES, women are much more prone to emotional outbursts (see estrogen)
Emotions are too a part of who I am....it does not mean it gives me the right to fly off the handle just because
I don't seem to understand what was said, nor did I take it in the correct, inoffensive manner as I'd previously mentioned. Emotions, aren't really
the problem. PEOPLE + poor communication + assumptions = problems.
Originally posted by seeker11I did think twice before replying. I read through almost 11 pages of replies before replying. And read the
OP a couple of times over.
I was talking about my post that you assumed was an offensive attack.
Whether someone repeats what you have done shouldn't make you react in an emotional way just because
you seem to be ashamed to admit what you did? Ego and pride are usually the issue here.
Originally posted by seeker11As for your intent. I do take full responsibility for my actions. You said you used to lie and say it was
because you were passionate? I'm not quite sure how this relates to me. I have never had a problem with lying. I am who I am. Like I said I COULD have
formulated a lie in my original response, I had the time to do it, but I did not. Instead, I feel like I contributed the honest truth, my
I mentioned my past to give you the background that I know how to talk sh it very well so if my intent was
to attack you I could have sounded MUCH more vulger and offensive, it had nothing to do with you.
I don't lie anymore though because the value within "truth" is infinitely immeasurable towards my spiritual
growth and development. I never once inferred you to be a liar. Communication is key. Asking questions
when something comes across as unknowing is also.
Originally posted by seeker11I guess I should be thankful for you not directing your words towards me in such a way as to enrage me
enough to kill you. Thank you, I am grateful. Murder is one crises I definitely needed to avoid today!
I agree with that sentiment completely!
Just know that while the Op's test may have gotten many of us in this thread, one thing is for certain...
Not everyone has the intention of hurting one another. Specifically me. If I had written what you did, to which your reply told me you were saddened
by MY actions/choices, there would be no conflict.
We can only grow from our mistakes if we openly see that we had made them, THEN only by seeking to resolve it can we later state that a mistake was
never a mistake as long as we sought to fix it. Sadly many people don't correct them, and allow them to linger....
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Chinesis because: (no reason given)