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Originally posted by Jean Paul Zodeaux
Originally posted by daynight42
reply to post by buni11687
Maybe it's actually, the higher your debt, the higher your EGO is.
I think of all the people I see who have spending problems, and I think it might be a defense mechanism. To avoid feeling poor, they spend money they falsely believe they can spend without major consequences. Dream world.
It really is a symptom of POOR self-esteem. Self-esteem comes from within, from your SELF. It ain't something you can BUY or achieve through spending outrageously.
Retailers would love to sell you something to help you feel otherwise, though.
It is odd that you would blame EGO, and then call it poor self esteem. I agree with you that it is probably poor self esteem that is causing this rush towards debt, but what you've just described speaks much more to the ID than it does the EGO.
Look the debt is the effect not the cause why or how would gaining debt change your personality
In 2004, researchers James Heyman and Dan Ariely (author of Predictably Irrational) devised a set of deceptively simple experiments that illustrated that the moment money enters a social relationship, it can change the very nature of our expectations and the relationship.
What Ariely suggests is that when approached to help do something, we put things into one of two primary contexts (or “comparative norms”). We are either putting it into the “business” norm (I perform a task, you pay me for that task), or the “social” norm (I’m doing this task as a favor to you).