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Is “sexting” really cheating? Well, if, like Congressman Anthony Wiener, you’re married and sexting someone other than your spouse (and without your partner’s knowledge or approval), of course it is!
In an earlier post for The Chart, I talked about Internet infidelity and how it’s accelerating at a record pace. With its easy accessibility and novelty, the Internet enables us to easily tune out and turn off to our partners, when we should be making an effort to tune in and turn on.
The instant gratification of these technologies stimulates reward centers in the brain, and soon we find ourselves craving the quick hit of an instant connection or lamenting its absence.
Real relationships take time and patience, whereas sexting a stranger or engaging in a flirtatious Facebook friendship brings us a quick thrill and requires a lot less work. And the more technology becomes a personal accessory that renders us always on, the more likely we are to become novelty seekers in search of the next ping.
We live in an era when many consider sexual infidelity to be the ultimate personal betrayal. But there are those who believe that if infidelity doesn’t involve a physical component, it’s not really cheating—and that’s just not true.
The accessibility of the Internet means that we need to be more vigilant of emotional infidelity, and seemingly benign activities that nonetheless have a sexual and secretive component.
Originally posted by grahag
To cheat means to go against the rules. Maybe it's within the rules of his marriage? Maybe he's a swinger or has an open relationship? Or maybe it's just not a big deal to them?
I don't consider it cheating in regards to my marriage situation. We have a marriage that's a little outside the normal rules though.
My wife sexts other guys/girls all the time and I have no problem with that. Cheating? nope.
Originally posted by Sly1one
I always thought a good rule of thumb was:
"if you wouldn't do it in front of your significant other, then you shouldn't be doing itl"
having said that, I personally feel it is cheating.
The simple truth is that if your partner is ok with you doing something and is approving of it, it's not cheating. If you have it in your system to do sexting or going with multiple people, and you know your partner is not into it and would be hurt by it, leave that relationship, because they are not for you.
Don't use your free will to do whatever you want to hurt their free will to be free of hurt.