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Originally posted by FraternitasSaturni
Originally posted by ThinkingCap
Sounds like you both need to work on communicating with each other.
And by communicating, I don't mean throwing dishes/yelling.
Exactly! Communication is the key...
That or convert to islam and convince her to do the same... that will work wonders also.
Originally posted by mamabeth
reply to post by OzWeatherman
The problem seems to rest with your lady friend.
Just be true to yourself,treat her with love and
Originally posted by Schkeptick
My thoughts as a long-married woman...
Your girlfriend is passive-aggressive, expecting you to read her mind. Also, her expectations are too high. I found happiness this way: if I didn't ask for it, I can't expect it. Anything I get that wasn't asked for is bonus. I shouldn't ask for anything that I'm not willing to give.
What I'm guessing is that primarily she is using you as a scapegoat for her own personal turmoils. If she is under the age of 40, turmoil is going to be frequent & happen regularly, about twice a month. It's easy as a woman to make the man somehow responsible for our every unhappiness.
But it's unfair. And wrong.
This is the ugly side of feminism (and I believe there are good sides to it, too) - men are held to ridiculous, unattainable standards and then made the scapegoat for our emotional problems.
It isn't your responsibility to make her happy. If she doesn't show up happy & remain that way on her own, what do you want with her? She's just going to torture you for as long as you put up with it.
It happens all the time as a woman that I might feel vaguely pissy for no real reason. It's my responsibility as a woman to be mature enough to deal with this internally, not torture other people with it. Overcoming our own hormones is part of becoming a true woman. Girls who never take responsibility and blame it on whatever man or other woman who comes their way... are just immature girls. Not real women.
Originally posted by NoRegretsEver
I cannot speak for all women, but there was a time that I was overly emotional (when I was younger), and if my boyfriend would let me act out, I did as I wanted. He would either relentlessly ask me "Whats wrong?", "Are you mad at me?", and I saw him as a push over.
Then I met my match, someone that wasn't mean to me, but didn't take my crap either. Though we later broke up (years later), we are still friends and always agreed that we were better off being honest with each other, we even give each other relationship advice.
Sometimes (some women) need someone to be a challenge intellectually, spiritually, and communication wise. Maybe shes just waiting for you to let her know that you love her, but you will not be a doormat to tantrums, but a bit of communication, and compromise can get you guys on the right track.
Good Luck, NRE.
Originally posted by Elentarri
You need to be able to read minds.
And put the toilet seat down.
Originally posted by OzWeatherman
Women, what exactly do you expect from a boyfriend?
Im so confused right now. I do a lot of things right, but it just seems like you expect everything from us men. I could be wrong of course, and maybe Im not doing enough emotionally to keep my girlfriend happy, and she never says anything direct, Im always expected to read between the lines.
So ladies, any tips on what I shoudl take on board to keep my girlfriend happy? We do love each other but it just seems that whenever I make a mistake, its always a big deal, and half the time I dont mean to, or dont even know Im doing something wrong.
edit on 4/6/2011 by OzWeatherman because: (no reason given)