reply to post by Illusionsaregrander
As stated previously, I can only give my own experience.
The way many young women dress and act today - they are asking for it. You don't dangle a hunk of raw meat in front of a hungry dog and not expect
them to bite at it. I'm all for dressing sexy, but some young women I see really take it to the extreme.
Now, my experience:
My son went for the gold, a real blonde "beauty"............I warned him she was a psychopath and very mentally deranged to no avail.
Most women chose to get pregnant.........today in America and Canada and Europe, there is such a thing as birth control.
Getting back to my son, they got pregnant, married and right after my grand daughter was born, she spent 16 hours every day away from home. She would
work, go to school and in her spare time (most evenings and every weekend go to bars and help her brother run his Kareokee business) leaving my son to
work full time, come home and care for his infant daughter............they bonded like a child would usually bond to the mother who is normally the
At two, she, my daughter in law came to our home at 3 AM with the police (we were baby sitting) took our grand daughter and disappeared for three
Than began divorce proceedings.
My son was not abusive, his big crime was he gained too much weight and was no longer desirable to her.
Each experience is different, no not all men rape, abuse and are brutes.........maybe the ones you know.
My husband of 38 years was the best father.
My son is a good father..........by the way my ex daughter in law has:
- Called my son's employer and got him fired so he now does not have a job. He was paying child support but now that she got him fired he cannot pay
- I bought our grand daughter close to $500.00 USD worth of clothes for winter and she threw them back at my son, refusing them.
- When she drove off with my two year old grand daughter, that night I promised her, in front of a policeman, that if she did not turn this divorce
into a ugly mess that would mess up her daughter psychologically, I would pay her $1,500 a month myself to ensure they had a decent place to live.
- We (my husband and I now own a ten room house, a town house and now 100 acres somewhere up north...........if this little idiot had played her cards
right, she would now be the proud owner of said town house as I would give anything and I mean anything for my husband, my son and I to be involved in
our grand daughter's life.
- She has continiously ignored and disobeyed court "Joint Custody" rulings and the court doesn't care, they don't enforce custody
rulings...........it's all a big scam to pad the wallets of judges, lawyers and the divorce court system. And you can't see that.
- Some people, mostly men, would do better with a doll vs a woman.
- Many young women I see today are being raised to be spoiled, selfish, non compromising %itches and it's considered "cute".
- Look at the reality shows............Bridezillas, Paris Hiton's MBF and all the other stupid, dumbing down, shows.
- You can't see that the family unit is being broken apart intentionally.............dividing the most sacred of bonds, that between a man and a woman
deciding to create a family.
Destroy the family unit, separate the mother and father and leaving the kids to raise themselves.
No, sorry, I've met and talked to too many men that want to be good fathers, many times now it is the women who simply want a wedding party to
celebrate them being queen for a day and than the mommy experience and than it's good bye charlie....................and in Illinois, I can't speak
for any other state, the father and paternal grand parents have little or no rights.
My daughter in law is crazy because her father wanted her to have my grand daughter aborted (read it on one of her blogs) and so refused to see our
beautiful grand daughter until two weeks before he died.
Her mother, who is nice, abandon my ex daughter in law when she was four because she could not tolerate her husband's cruel games.................with
the same exact lawyer my ex daughter in law used against my son.
Times have changed, I know a lot more nicer men now than women. Many women are devious, manipulative and spoiled princesses.
When you have main custody going to the mother 80% of the time, that means the laws are clearly prejudice against men (reverse discrimination).
And many children are are raped and killed by their mother's "boyfriend".
My ex daughter in law has had eight "boyfriends" since her divorce from my son. (eight years)
My son has had two fiances....of which my ex daughter in law has stalked and called both of them.
The first one became frightened and moved.
The second one stood up to my ex daughter in law, and my grand daughter actually loves my son's fiance' more than her own mother.
Again, we all come to the table with our own unique set of experiences.
Maybe you married a drunken brute..............my son was not.
Do not generalize and judge everyone the same way.
I have gone six months without seeing my grand daughter.....................her maternal grandmother that is still alive wants nothing to do with her
because she sees her daughter has turned out exactly like her ex husband.
As a last piece of information: Legally the child(ren) are usually in Illinois considered property (like a TV or sofa) of the mother.............not
beings with feelings.
My grand daughter has asked repeatedly to speak with the judge, to no avail............the court does not recognize her as a human being and worthy to
talk to until she reaches 12.
At her last birthday, she said, "Well two more years and I can tell the judge all the stuff my mother has pulled, two more years and counting".
No, we have never spoken ill of her mother - this came out of her mouth herself.
It has been my experience that most women are vendictive and spoiled and are using the very system set up to protect women and children before women's
liberation......................using their own children as pawns in a mean, vicious game to get back at their ex with no regard for how they are
hurting their child(ren) psychologically.
They don't care about their kids, they just want revenge.
Some men would really be better off with blow up dolls or some other inanimate object.
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