I really don't know why I choose to read these threads all the time. All they end up doing is inspiring rage within me.
*takes deep breath,
calms down* Okay, here's my opinion.
I wish people would stop arguing over whether sexuality is a choice. I don't believe you're "born with it", no baby is ever sexually attracted to
another baby, as far as I know, because that part of them hasn't developed yet. But it really isn't a choice either. I think that sexuality is
influenced by a number of factors, such as the role of ones parents, interaction with peers, and the individual's emotional sensitivity. At no point,
however, does a child make a conscious decision regarding sexual preference. It developes largely unseen in the early stages of life, so that by the
time the child reaches puberty their preference is already fixed.
The choices come into play when the individual chooses whether or not to act on sexual desires. Often, when an individual feels an attraction to the
opposite sex, they are often encouraged to pursue it. On the other hand, if the individual feels an attaction to the same sex, it is often suppressed
by the individual based on outside influences.
The individual can either choose to accept their sexual preference, or suppress it. In many cases, the individual chooses to suppress homosexuality
for fear of being socially ostracized. Similarly, an individual from a religious family might have even heterosexual desires suppressed due to their
parents religious beliefs. Sometimes the individual is compliant, others choose to rebel and often become promiscuous.
To me it is obvious; suppression is not the answer. Acceptance is. If one accepts who they are and what they want, they will be much happier in
I admit it is somewhat hypocritical of me to say this...it is because of the bigoted and heterosexist ***holes of the world that I still choose to
suppress my urges and try to blend in as much as possible. I am not happy with my life. I feel a pain in my heart every day.
Christians keep talking about "God's love", and yet their hate is destroying me. They say that if I "accept Jesus as my savior" then he will
"help me overcome my temptation" but I feel that this is absolute bullocks. I don't want to live my life fearing that pursuing happiness will bring
eternal damnation, invoking the name of a glorified dead philosopher as a crutch to struggle through this horrid existence.
If your God is truly a loving being, he wouldn't force us into a life of suffering, and then an eternity of suffering if we even try to be happy.