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Originally posted by sonnny1
reply to post by CoherentlyConfused
Unfortunately,just a hunch of drug use,doesn't get the Judge involved. You have to have PROOF. Trust me,as a father who told a judge about the drug use,but was told I needed proof,and anything else was defamation of character. Judge honestly told me that.
Originally posted by CoherentlyConfused
reply to post by sonnny1
Pee and hair tests don't lie. If you honestly suspect drug abuse and plea to the court, the judge should (and i say should because not all judges should be in their position) order a test. I will totally agree to the fact that the judicial system is quite skewed in favor of the woman.
It all comes down to this, really--if you don't want to pay support, fight for custody. Don't just file---fight. In the end, if the courts give custody to the mother, then the father needs to pay support. Period. If you simply don't want custody or you don't feel you should "have" to pay support, too bad, so sad. Life sucks but it's not the child's fault that you were 50% responsible for bringing them into this crappy, unfair world.
Originally posted by CoherentlyConfused
States have guidelines. If you need a reduction due to your income, file for one.
Originally posted by CobraCommander
Originally posted by sonnny1
reply to post by CoherentlyConfused
Unfortunately,just a hunch of drug use,doesn't get the Judge involved. You have to have PROOF. Trust me,as a father who told a judge about the drug use,but was told I needed proof,and anything else was defamation of character. Judge honestly told me that.
And the judge was right. Wouldn't want it to work the other way either, though sadly it often does.
Originally posted by CaDreamer
reply to post by CoherentlyConfused
i had custody of the children for several years yes i do know the costs... i pay about 2X the cost to raise 2 Teens every month, the court does not care really, its about predetermined formulas made to fit all cases...there is no such formula in the real world.
I was paying the equivalent of food, clothing, 1/2 rent all expenses that i was paying while i had an entire family at home.
now i have to support 2 households. including the ex-wives new husband. who thinks i could do more.
edit on 11-6-2011 by CaDreamer because: to add
Originally posted by CoherentlyConfused
States have guidelines. If you need a reduction due to your income, file for one.
Originally posted by CaDreamer
reply to post by CoherentlyConfused
i think that whenever there is an allegation of drug use a test should be ordered immediately for both parents. to be fair and unbiased.
Originally posted by CoherentlyConfused
The state guidelines are minimal and anyone complaining about how much they pay really have no clue.