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Originally posted by CoherentlyConfused
I am only under the servitude of the welfare of my children. The state is not involved. I am paying above the state guidelines and have been for the past 8 years. I cannot stand my ex and sometimes vomit a little in my mouth when I think about him. I absolutely, unequivocally and with all my being hate my ex. Edited to add: He's not real fond of me, either.
I absolutely, unequivocally and with all my being love my children.edit on 11-6-2011 by CoherentlyConfused because: (no reason given)edit on 11-6-2011 by CoherentlyConfused because: (no reason given)edit on 11-6-2011 by CoherentlyConfused because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by CoherentlyConfused
I am only under the servitude of the welfare of my children. The state is not involved. I am paying above the state guidelines and have been for the past 8 years. I cannot stand my ex and sometimes vomit a little in my mouth when I think about him. I absolutely, unequivocally and with all my being hate my ex.
I absolutely, unequivocally and with all my being love my children.edit on 11-6-2011 by CoherentlyConfused because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by sonnny1
Originally posted by CoherentlyConfused
I am only under the servitude of the welfare of my children. The state is not involved. I am paying above the state guidelines and have been for the past 8 years. I cannot stand my ex and sometimes vomit a little in my mouth when I think about him. I absolutely, unequivocally and with all my being hate my ex.
I absolutely, unequivocally and with all my being love my children.edit on 11-6-2011 by CoherentlyConfused because: (no reason given)
I salute you for the love you have. May I ask, Why you pay your EX above the guidelines,when you could go to court and have them reduced ? You could always save the extra money,for your children,or get a lawyer to have custody changed. Its very rare that a mother,gives up her rights,or lets the father raise the children.
Originally posted by CoherentlyConfused
My children are where they are because it is what is best for them. Not best for me or best for him. I live in a city environment and the schools are poor. He lives in a very rural area with good schools It was a clear decision. If we had gone to court, I would have most likely been awarded custody. We never went to court.
Who has custody wasn't the issue and should never be. Moms and dads really need to take their own egos out of the equation because they are meaningless.
Originally posted by CoherentlyConfused
My children are where they are because it is what is best for them. Not best for me or best for him. I live in a city environment and the schools are poor. He lives in a very rural area with good schools It was a clear decision. If we had gone to court, I would have most likely been awarded custody. We never went to court.
Who has custody wasn't the issue and should never be. Moms and dads really need to take their own egos out of the equation because they are meaningless.
Originally posted by CaDreamer
reply to post by CobraCommander
i paid support voluntarily for 2 years prior to being ordered to pay it thru Child support services. i was sent a bill for past support dating back 2 years. I supplied the cancelled checks and money orders for the District Attorneys office, they then negated the multi-thousands of dollar bounty they had issued. However they still charged me nearly one thousand dollars for court and filing fees.
they is no win with the govt. was hoping that at least women would see this and admit the bias.
guess money weighs more heavily in some women's minds than integrity.
oh i still have the receipts too... and every check stub dating back 10 years. only way to fight govt bureaucracy, and greed.
Originally posted by CoherentlyConfused
I should add that if you do suspect some kind of abuse, physical or substance, it's your absolute responsibility to do something. If you go to court and tell the judge you suspect abuse, the judge's responsibility is to do something about it. If they do a drug test on your ex, which they will if brought up in court, then you will most likely receive custody if drugs are found in her system.
I am only speaking from the experience of being the paralegal to a family court attorney and witnessing many different situations. So please don't take my advice, go seek real legal counsel, if you feel your child is in danger.
edit on 11-6-2011 by CoherentlyConfused because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by CoherentlyConfused
reply to post by CaDreamer
Financially killing? Do you know what the costs are for raising a child? Have you seen a teenage boy eat?