Of the friends that have passed before me, all of them have visited me afterward (in my dreams); usually it is several years later and the first thing I do is confront them about their death.
I am a Lucid Dreamer; of those times I was visited I immediately recognized the fact that my friends are deceased, so of course I blurt out
immediately, "do you know you are dead?" LOL The response is always the same, "of course I do".
I have gotten to laugh and joke and ask as many questions but it seems they really want to hear what I am doing and not the other way around. It is
like they avoid anything beyond my own scope.
Perhaps they represent that part of my psyche that I have derived from my friendship with them as they were alive. Their favorite jokes, their
charismatic expressions. I seem to mimic them in real life because I adored them in real life; I am a bit of a mirror to others in that I reflect
those that I meet. Often when I am around a person long enough I am very much like them without realizing it. I see it as a gift but I wouldn't be
surprised at how "text book" psycho that might be.
I even had a cat visit me; my own cat that I purposely had put to sleep because he attacked me and went completely mad. This visit was also a Lucid
state and wouldn't you know it, the darn thing went after me and bit the living you-know-what out of me; I never threw myself off a bed so fast! It
felt more real than when he first bit me 10 years prior (it took him 10 years to find me).
The message from the cat was one of forgiveness; I am certain of it, at first I did not recognize him because the years that passed. He was even
acting nice and friendly which was not his style. I asked him, "where did you come from kitty?" and that is when he bit me and I flew off the bed
only to discover there really wasn't a cat and I went Lucid and thought I was awake. Then it hit me, the bite, and the fact he had half a tail, the
coloration was identical, it was my cat! His name was Merlin!
Well, that is my deceased side of it; as for the living friends, what the OP describes happens to me with close-by friends when they are thinking of
something I sort of blurt it out and it always gets people scratching their heads. I don't know why but when a thought pops into my head that is not
an intentional thought I blurt it out loud as if to figure out why the thought is there. Seems to happen with food as the subject most often; someone
will think "ice cream" and I immediately blurt out "ice cream"! It is like being hit with a craving but it is coming from someone else because
they always laugh and ask how I knew that was on their mind!
I could be the Psychic Chef! LOL