First and foremost, before anyone wants to come after me for this one; This is NOT relationship advice as our society would define it, this is
something about what goes on behind the scenes in a relationship that very few know about, (I’ve never met anyone in person.) Although I use the
examples of a couples-type relationship, this can be applied also to friendships, workplace relationships, or anything in between. I am concentrating
on the lover-type relationships because it is those relationships that are raising our children today. I cry thinking about how children are raised;
what I see and hear about. I don’t think I need to, nor do I want to, go into that. But I am hoping this will help bring couples together stronger
so that it may strengthen the growth of their children. If that makes sense.
Also, I’m not saying ALL relationships will fail if they don’t agree with what I say, and I’m not saying you’re in a failing relationship. If
your current relationship is working smoothly, perhaps I’m not talking to you; perhaps there is the balance I am about to speak about already (I
believe it can happen subconsciously). Either way, I feel all will benefit from this information, especially those of us who have had a history of
First, something I want you to understand…
…we are energy beings. Every atom in our body is made of loving conscious energy, and every interaction you have is an attempt to get that
energy, or give it. Atoms respond to our intentions, our beliefs. (Tai Chi, for an obvious example, is energy harvesting and manipulating that energy
throughout our bodies).Since most people don’t know or understand this, they manage to steal energy from others, or unknowingly give up theirs. Some
do this using aggression, like a bully in school for example. By placing the other person in fear of you, you are taking their energy. Just ask a
bully how he “feels” internally when he is bullying someone, or ask the victim how they feel. Others take energy by belittling the other person.
We’ve all met that person (boyfriends do this often) who constantly questions everything you are doing, then makes you feel stupid for your ideas.
“Oh, if we had only done it MY way, this wouldn’t have happened.” The most common method, at least in my opinion, is the “Poor Me syndrome”,
this individual steals energy from others by making others feel sorry for them. I’m sure we’ve all met that person who always has something wrong
in their life to complain about, is always sick, always sad. When you feel sorry for these individuals, you are giving them your energy. The same as
if you pay attention to someone who constantly brags. There are many ways that individual humans manage to steal energy from others, everyone has
their own unique way, depending on how they were raised and what has worked for them since birth.
Want proof? We have all felt this energy transference. Think of the last argument you were in where you were proven wrong. How did you feel at the
very moment you realized you lost the argument? Now think of an argument you’ve been in where you have proven yourself correct. How did you feel at
…The amazing thing is; as soon as you can understand this, you can actually get your energy from other sources instead of each other, then you can
work on expanding your aura of energy away from you, in the intention of increasing it in those around you. It may help to understand that the
universe is a massive ocean of atoms, all interconnected with each other, all made of loving conscious energy. There is no difference between you, the
monitor you are reading from and the air in between. All are atoms of conscious energy. The only difference is the frequency at which the atoms are
vibrating. For example, the air you are breathing is vibrating much faster than you are, and so it is light and invisible, whereas a rock is vibrating
much slower than you are, and so it is heavy and dense. You can picture the universe like a glass of water, every drop in that glass is it’s own
individual drop, but each drop is also part of the entire body of water. The universe is one massive ocean of loving conscious energy. Once you
understand this, you can gain energy any time, without harming others.
The above information is detrimental, beyond ANY doubt, to obtaining a successful relationship. I’ll explain why…
The first part of the problem is that most people are unaware of their own energy, in the sense I’m talking about it. When you don’t know about
it, it’s hard to have a good balance, and it’s even harder to maintain higher levels of the energy you are made of. This is why it’s harder to
maintain a positive attitude or emotions. This is why most people have zero control of their emotions. (No, sigh, I’m NOT saying that we should keep
our emotions bottled up and stored away for later…I mean no self control during emotional floods.) Most of us enter into new relationships without
having any control of our own energies and therefore our emotions.
So what happens in a new relationship then?
Once the initial attraction has begun and been reciprocated, each member of the new relationship wants to gain the approval of the other. We do this
by sending the other individual some of our own energy. A man might (and I stress “might”) hold the door open or pull out a chair, buy flowers or
cook, the list is endless. A woman might compliment or send messages that she feels secure around him, flirt with him. I know these examples are
extremely cliché, and I know not all relationships consist of one male and one female. The point is to try and bring you back to that moment of the
beginning stages of a relationship, and the things you did for that new partner. Think of the emotional vibes you sent their way, the flirting vibes.
Throughout the beginning of that relationship, in many many different ways, you were willingly sending energy to one another.
So what happens, where does it start to fail?
Eventually, as we grow used to each other, we start to send each other a little less energy, for others perhaps a LOT less energy. But we’ve grown
addicted to the other person’s energy and we start to EXPECT them to give it to us like they have been. This is where the struggles start. Each
member of the relationship is sending less energy to the other, but demanding more. Someone has to give, and often it will end in becoming the first
“argument” of the relationship, and often this is the point where the dominant of the two will be established; the one who’s method of stealing
energy is stronger than the others, will be the dominant.
Here I feel it’s important to explain something slightly off topic, though which does help to illustrate a little further, I suppose. We are energy
beings, neither of us are purely male or female energy. If we could tap into the beings we are, we would be neither male nor female, but both; every
atom consists of male and female energy, positive or negative (and I don’t mean good or bad). That being said, I will say that men have
“activated” (for lack of a better word, and I really DO need a better word here) primarily the male energy of their being while women have
“activated” primarily the female energy. (And yes, I know there will be many exceptions contrary to what I’m saying. Some men use mostly female
and visa versa.) Male energy is outgoing, penetrating, forceful, (the sun is a male energy) while female energy is accepting, comforting and nurturing
(the leaves of a plant are a female energy, the leaf is penetrated by the branch and the rays of the sun.)
When a male’s energy is out of balance, he will become aggressive and forceful, often getting in fights or other such acts of violence. When a
female’s energy is out of balance, she will not be nurturing, but rather will be angry at everything the partner does, even if she can’t
rationalize it. Of course there are many many other examples, every individual will have their own methods, my examples serve only to give you some
example of what to look for in yourself.
So after the initial settlement of who’s method of controlling the energy of the relationship prevails, if the relationship doesn’t end here, you
can see the type of relationship where one party is unhappy and submissive while the other party is not respecting of the first, but instead acting
more like a leach. I’m sure we can all think of someone we know who is with a partner we feel they should leave; someone loyal to their partner,
always bending over backwards to please their partner even though their partner treats them like hell, cheats on them and/ or physically or mentally
abuses them. In fact, it might even be hard to find a relationship that isn’t this way.
So what’s the solution?
I believe we have all been conditioned to react in as negative a manner as possible to the energies around us; at least to a certain degree. There is
a lot of unwarranted jealousy in most relationships (I know sometimes it is warranted). There is a lot of getting mad at the other individual for
minor reasons, or reasons that don’t make sense. There is a lot of demeaning and belittling of your partner, and most of all, and most powerful,
there is a LOT of selfishness and inconsideration towards your partner. This is ALL because of a lack of flow of natural energy, your constant hunt
for energy, any way you can get it.
The solution is that first, before you get involved in a relationship, you need to make sure you are independent in your energy sources. There are an
infinite number of ways to do this, but the first step is believing that you, along with everything in the universe, is pure energy, everything in
existence is an expression of that energy, varying only in frequency; and you need to believe that you can fulfill your energy supply without robbing
others of it.
Once you’ve done this, you can develop your own way to harvest energy from the unlimited pool which is the universe. An easy route would probably be
to study Tai Chi. I’ve never practiced it myself, but have studied it’s techniques and have heard nothing but results. Tai Chi, translated, means
harvesting energy. The body movements are coupled with visionary techniques and breathing techniques to help you harvest and manipulate energy
throughout your body. Martial arts practitioners can pin point this energy, which is how you will see a karateka hit a pile of 8 cinder blocks,
claiming to break only the 5th block, and the 5th breaks. He has directed the flow of energy from his body to his fist, then to the fifth block.
You can also try many of an infinite number of meditation techniques.
Myself, I just envision something I truly love, like my son or my wife; you can picture a plant, a vacation spot, whatever you truly love. I carry
this love and extend it to all I see. I love every person I see, I love every tree, every building, every bird. (I understand a lot of you will think
this is dumb or not understand it, but it’s what works for me.) Everything in existence is energy, and the best vibration for energy is that of
love. Loving all of existence fills me with energy. Sometimes I just look in the eyes of people I walk past and see them for the energy beings,
spirits, they are; loving them. I have envisioned that every atom in the rays of the sun, or every drop of rain, that beats on my skin is filling me
These are suggestions, but only you will know and find what works for you. It may be praying to God to fill you with his spirit, it may be lighting
candles and incense to set the mood and meditating. Find your way to connect to your truth and your God, the true God.
When you have control of your energies, you have control of your emotions. Not that you are controlling them and willing them away, but you realize
that anger is just a way to manipulate energy from others, and that you are the only one allowing yourself to get angry. So you don’t get angry. You
start to realize your own techniques for stealing energy from others, and you can stop doing it.
When you’ve done this, then you are ready to be in a relationship; ideally with someone who has also gained control of their energies. You can come
into a relationship as half a circle, your partner as another half. Together you are a full circle; but are dependent on the other to be whole.
Instead, you should enter a relationship as a whole circle, joining with another full circle, so that together you are a strong, impenetrable bond,
but apart you are still whole.
If you and your partner are both able to harvest energy from all that is, you can then start practicing giving each other energy as you each harvest
it. But that’s another topic all together.
I hope this helps;
Peace and One Love.