Originally posted by Evolutionsend
reply to post by thejlxc
Defense is good, assertiveness will get you killed. Never confront someone directly. If they are a criminal, they're going to kill you. Keep one
eye on them, get on the bike, and leave. Very simple.
I completely disagree, and so do the police. Well, I will say that you shouldn't "confront" as in "escalate" the situation, but you definitely
should be assertive, and confront them in a way that puts you back in control of the situation.
Assertiveness will stop most attacks. Convenience store clerks and bank tellers are taught to always make eye contact and speak. That simple action
will thwart many attacks. I posted my original story in this thread, and I also posted another story later in the thread about a night in New Orleans
where my assertiveness (without a gun) prevented me from getting robbed.
Keeping an eye on them and getting on the bike might have looked weak. Any sign of weakness invites an attack. Also, it's much more difficult to
defend yourself when they are the aggressor. It is much easier to defend yourself if you are the bold one.
I've had people run away from me, just because I was eager to fight, LOL! For those of us that grew up in the country and redneck areas, where
people fight for fun, we all know that most folks are just posturing, and 75% of the fights never happen. Guys just bully and yell and push and hope
someone breaks it up before they have to fight. BUT, once in awhile you run across that guy that just LOVES to fight, LOL! If you can be
guy, then it is very intimidating, and most folks will just try to get away from you.
Besides, was there anything I did in the OP that was anything but friendly? I was very polite, but I was very assertive, and I was the aggressor (in
a friendly way), so that even though I was outnumbered, I had the momentum and perceived power on my side. It is a great trick that many people use
(including cops). Be polite, direct, and assertive, and be running all the possible scenarios through your head at the same time, so that you are
prepared for every contingency and they are not.
Over the years, I have taken bats and knives away from people. I've seen a guy shoot himself (instead of me) when I approached him and put myself
between him and the family of his ex-girlfriend, I've had a friend shot (because he was an idiot and pulled his gun with no intention of actually
using it), and I've had people shoot at me when I was unarmed, but they missed because of the pressure of the situation and me not retreating! If I
had turned to run, I might have been shot. Assertiveness has saved my life countless times.
Cops used to say to be compliant to avoid injury, but these days they have changed that stance. They say to give up any merchandise, cash, or
material things, but do not give in to a violent attacker, resist, resist, resist! Attackers don't want it to be difficult, they want it easy.
Also, the Number One
most important thing is to NEVER leave with an attacker. If they are robbing you, give up the stuff, but absolutely do
not follow them anywhere or allow yourself to be pushed or pulled into a vehicle. Make them shoot you right there, in a familiar area, where you are
likely to get help sooner rather than later. DO NOT let them drag you off to some remote area to do whatever, and then still shoot you with no chance
of getting help.
I could go on and on with more detail about when to put an obstacle between you and a potential attacker (as my wife did), or when to remove an
obstacle and make sure you are not creating an adversarial posture. I believe the most important thing is to know your own strengths and weaknesses,
and always attempt to stack the situation in your favor. Also, try to do what they aren't expecting. Make sure you have an idea of what direction
the situation is headed, but they are unsure. It is an artform, but if someone can be good at situation control it is even more useful than