posted on May, 10 2011 @ 04:10 PM
I would love to reach a point in my life where I could assert, without hesitation, that I have divested myself of all prejudice.
But sadly, I think that kind of enlightenment requires a change in my personality that is more comprehensive than simply saying so.
I don't think it is so easy eliminate preconceptions and biases because while I can easily take the intellectual step of acknowledging that people
are simply people; I cannot yet find a way to eliminate my understanding that circumstances of birth, upbringing, or life choices do have a bearing
on my estimate of the the amount of trust I might be willing to extend to someone; and that such factors are not within my (and often the person's)
Some may call any such reservations reasonable, but those excluded from my trust will not see it that way; often opting to identify the bias as base,
and ignorant. In fact, sometimes gleefully characterizing it in such a manner, as it strengthens their sense of righteous pride. Our culture has
engendered the ability to make such accusations of bias weighty, regardless of the intent or rationale behind it.
Yet I think the offense resides often in the mind of the presumed victim; irrespective of the intent of the one reserving trust. I suspect that some
actually seek the offense; going so far as to perform whatever mental gymnastics are necessary to confabulate the matter... to their advantage.
In any case, I am still struggling to find a way to not let myself be victimized by bias and prejudice... so far all I have learned is that there is a
world of difference between saying you have no bias, and recognizing that bias is not something you 'have'... it's something you 'cultivate.'
Eventually you trim away the chaff, and what remains is what you can tackle and overcome. I'm still working on it.... and dodging verbal bullets
along the way.