posted on May, 4 2011 @ 09:16 AM
In my experience only time, courage and strength get me through it. Time seems to tick by so slowly, with every minute seeming like hours. The
person I want to tell everything to, relate with just isn't there anymore. Sometimes it seems like it's worse than losing someone through death,
because when someone dies they aren't around like some ghost of the person I once knew actively doing things to destroy my life or harm me. There's
nothing that makes it all okay if your love is still burning strongly inside you. If it was more of a mutual disintegration of the relationship than
you can focus on what was wrong with it, when you are thinking about it, and avoid romanticizing it. Think of all the things that were upsetting,
made you feel bad about it, all the compromises you made. You're free of those things now, at least. You can be the whole of who you are again.
Try to survive each day by taking care of your basic needs. When you can, go out, be active as you can, do things you enjoy. You're living your
life for you now and nobody else. Be yourself wholly and completely. Time will ease the pain but it's a long, dark night before the dawn. If
you're lucky enough to have any friends in the world, try to hook up when you can with them. Indulge yourself in whatever comes your way. Whatever
gets you through the night is okay until you reach that point where you don't need to distract yourself anymore.
The fact is that being involved in a broken relationship is destructive to your mind, body and soul, yet people stay in them because it seems more
horrible to be alone. It's an illusion because there are six billion people out there and someone is going to click with you better than that last
one did. If that relationships was the one, it wouldn't be over now. I don't know why people have that fantasy of there being some special one.
Fairy tales we are told as children I guess.
The world is full of people who are alone and don't want to be, broken-hearted, foresaken, abandoned, distraught. It feels horrible to be in this
position but you are not alone in it. Survive, repair the damage
from the relationship, remember what it's like to be a whole individual, pursue your passions, take care of yourself. Fall in love with yourself.
I wish you the best, and that you find comfort and strength through this difficult time.