Originally posted by magestica
I feel kinda idiotic~
I honestly, merely skimmed over your response and missed what you were saying alltogether.I truly apologize for that.
But now "reading" what you wrote, I think that you have a very good opinion about soulmates and I also have never even thought that we have
"reflectors" of our soulmate?? This would definately explain alot of things...
Perhaps it explains also why I have continued to date/marry men who oddly enough, somewhat resemble what he looks like? Yet knowing perfectly well
that they were not him. I think they were simply men who would deter me from actually finding him? Like past life enimies or something? And I suppose
if one were to continue to make these "mistakes" then one would never find their "soulmate"
The question is; do we know when we've found them? I wonder what the feelings/emotions would be if and when we do? Would it be like(in my case)
nearly 30 years or more of complete relief, elation, awakening? Would it be like feeling alive for the first time?
I really don't expect you to know all these answers, by far, I don't expect anyone to. But opinions help
...nothing to feel idiotic or be sorry about there Magestica...sometimes the message just arrives at a later date
I'll tell ya a little something about soulmates that happened to me. And please forgive my reference to each persons true soul-mate/connection as
'the One'...I know it sounds very 'Matrix/Neo'...but hey...hehehe...
See...I, like you, have dreamt of the One...I know her face...more importantly I know her spirit...always have...she has been in my dreams for as long
as I can remember.
A few years ago I met a lady I thought was the One...and I know it sounds rather pathetic, but I met her right here on ATS. Before I joined ATS, back
in August 2000, I had been surfing the net for a number of months looking up Alien/UFO type information due to an interest in them I have (which is a
story all in itself, and best left for another time)...one evening, while running a search on UFOs through google, I happened across a website...which
(unbeknown to me at the time) was this lady's website...when I saw her pic on it, it was like BAM...she was so familiar to me...the way she looked
jogged many memories of these dreams over the years...really put me on the back-foot, didn't know what to do, so I simply didn't visit that website
Then I joined ATS...and the first person I met was a ATS member who just seemed to know EXACTLY what I was saying in my posts/replies...she just
totally seemed to understand me...she totally connected with my thoughts/views/feelings about nature, about spirituality and the paranormal...just
like meeting a long-lost friend...so we hit it off well.
There was something about her...the 'feel' of her replies, her spirit seemed so familiar to me. After a while of emails and general friendship, she
sent me a url of her website on Aliens/UFOs...I checked it out...and HELLO! It was this lady whose website I had checked out months before...
...now...what are the chances of THAT happening? Very slim indeed I'd say. We discovered we also had many other similarities and 'knowledges' of
eachother that were quite uncanny. Gradually we became more involved than just friends...and I grew to love her very deeply...as she loved me deeply
also. We also shared a 'dream *dare I say psychic* connection', where we could occasionally dream similar (personally I believe they were the same)
types of dreams...and when talking with the other the next day be able to describe the dream in great detail. I could also tell when she was sad, or
happy, or angry...or whatever...for I could feel the emotions running through me, and by focussing on them could tell it was her. A phone call later
and sure enough it was. She could do the same with me. We could sense the other, in spirit, near us whenever we needed some support through any
stressful times...almost like the other was right there in person...heck, during those times I could sense her I could also smell her perfume...it was
freaky, yet very beautiful at the same time...
So...for a while I kinda thought she was the One. But, truly, deep down, looking back on it now...I knew she wasn't.
I do believe we were destined to meet...but in hindsight I see what our roles were...mine was to remind her of a love-connection she once had, to love
her unconditionally and let her experience that love once more before she passed away *she passed on due to Cancer recently*. Hers was to reflect back
to me the One...to remind me of the love I had been dreaming about and to teach me to ready myself, to keep faith in it and to love again *for I had
given up on love prior to meeting her*
She was a reflector of/for the One...a reminder to me of the true Ones existance...
In response to your questions:
* With reference to men who resembled your true match - yes, I can see how that happens...for it happened to me *as described above*...but maybe a way
of seeing it is not so much a distraction from, but more as a reminder of, the true One. I also believe that we learn and move in a way, and at a
pace, best suited to us...so your meeting those guys may well not have been stalling your search, or mistakes...just merely steps you needed to make
along the path to finding the One.
* How do we know when we have found the One? May sound cliche...but maybe we just DO know...beyond any doubt. And I guess thats all individual as
well...for instance, it might be like anything in our lives...how do we know if anything is right for us. How I know is when my mind has no
doubts...nothing...a silence of the mind. Perhaps thats it. When the mind is silent...when there are no doubts. No questions. Nothing but the
experience. Perhaps thats how we know??
...good luck in your search...