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Originally posted by earthdude
My mother would threaten suicide weekly for years, a symptom of depression. It really bothered me and I got her help. The help was mind altering drugs. This was not the way to go. After these drugs left her system she began to become more balanced and aware that her threats were just a mean attack on people in general. You cannot cure meaness with psychology. The suicidal have a charictar flaw that should be hated. Hate your mother, Love her too, as this is the best medicine.
Originally posted by ScRuFFy63
While I have zero experience with suicide I do have experience with understanding emotions. Bottom line is if she doesn't want to grow as a person then she won't. Nobody can make another person want something. What you can do is urge her to participate in things that make her happy by herself. I say this b/c it sounds as if she bases her happiness on other people. That is just a set up for failure. And if she's been doing that for a long time you can easily see how the negative feelings can stack up on each other. She needs a reason to live for herself. Of course I may be 100% wrong but you never know what the right words are for situations like this.
Originally posted by GypsK
reply to post by GypsK
I went to see my mom this evening, they had moved her into the psych care unit, it's an open unit where they can walk in and out at will.
She had talked to two different psychologists already and met some of the other patients staying there, the place was better then what she had expected. They convinced her to stay there untill at least monday and have two therapy sessions and one group session each day. I'm surprised she agreed with it. She did say that she wasn't there because she wanted to but because she feels that it is what we are expecting of her. She was very vivid and calm and capable of a normal conversation, I think they gave her medication.... she seemed normal.
She didn't even ask about the cellphone, just said 'I know you won't give it to me'. I asked her why she wanted the phone so bad and she said 'I love him so much'. She said that after everything she knows she will still go back to him or try to get close to him, he is all that matters, not her financials, not her house, only him.
After visiting hours I went to talk to one of her doctors. It turned out that she had lied about everything they asked her, minimalizing the entire situation. Her doc told me that she doesn't want to talk to anyone, they have to drag everything out of her, if she doesn't come to terms and acknowledges that she needs professional help to get back on track, there is no use in keeping her there longer then 3 days. They will try to get her to open up a bit, try to get her to talk with other patients in similar situations, but after monday, if nothing changes, they will have to let her go.
I told this doctor that if she went home on monday she will just try it again, nothing will change and we can't watch her 24/7... she's a grown woman who can go where and do what she pleases, we will loose all grip on the situation.
All I can do is try and get a court order and then they will commit her for 3 weeks, but never longer and it usually only worsen the situation.
I can only hope that she'll be doing a lot of thinking and talking over the weekend and trust that these professionals know what they are doing.