Originally posted by HunkaHunka
it happened to me in a courthouse in Atlanta GA...
My second wife had gone and cheated, stole a bunch of money etc... during the divorce I wanted to really put the screws to her for everything she did
to me... but during the trial I sat behind her and saw loads of notes in which she had what looked like evidence that would bring up stuff which was
illegal but not immoral...
Right then I had to decide... do I really want to be justified in this situation or do I want to have this over and done with...
I chose the latter... I had held so much hate for that woman that when I let it go my entire world opened up and I was never happier...
In the end, it's something you do for yourself and no one else... that's when you know it's real.
I'd drop a ton of quotes I have saved on a notepad file, not sure how off topic it would be though. Alot of it is similar to what you've been saying
in the last few posts, and these concepts and ideas aren't new to me. It's just a file titled 'favquotes', so be warned, there's some length to
Some of these quotes(not many) may be off topic to our discussion, think there's a couple about capitalism and socialism, but most apply.
Like I say I like these ideals and ways of living, I just haven't quite got there. And I've drunk too much, so let my dislike of Monarchy consume me
earlier in the thread... Here are the quotes, you may or may not be familiar with a few
"My opinions may have changed but not the fact that I am right."
~ Ashleigh Brilliant
"When I was young and free and my imagination had no limits, I dreamed of changing the world. As I grew older and wiser, I discovered the world would
not change, so I shortened my sights somewhat and decided to change only my country.
"But it, too, seemed immovable.
"As I grew into my twilight years, in one last desperate attempt, I settled for changing only my family, those closest to me, but alas, they would
have none of it.
"And now, as I lie on my deathbed, I suddenly realize: If I had only changed myself first, then by example I would have changed my family.
"From their inspiration and encouragement, I would then have been able to better my country, and who knows, I may have even changed the world."
From the tombstone of an Anglican bishop in Westminster Abbey
"By all means marry; if you get a good wife, you'll be happy; if you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher."
There is a Vietnamese proverb, "Tri tuc, tien tuc, dai tuc, ha thoi tuc." That means, settling for "good enough" is enough. If we wait until all
our needs and wants are met, we may wait forever. "Tri tuc" means "good enough." "Good enough" means being content with the minimum amount
necessary. Your shirt and pair of shoes can last another year. It's all right for three or four people to share a desk for studying, there's no need
for each to have her own desk. Settling for "good enough" in terms of simple living will bring us contentment, satisfaction, and happiness
As long as we think our lives are not good enough [materially], we will not have happiness. As soon as we realize our lives are good enough, happiness
immediately appears. That is the practice of contentment.
In Vietnam there's a school of Buddhism called the Four Gratitudes. Just by practicing gratitude, we can find happiness. We must be grateful to our
ancestors, our parents, our teachers, our friends, the Earth, the sky, the trees, the grass, the animals, the soil, the stones. Looking at the
sunlight or at the forest, we feel gratitude. Looking at our breakfast, we feel grattitude. When we live in the spirit of gratitude, there will be
much happiness in our life. The one who is grateful is the one who has much happiness while the one who is ungrateful will not be able to have
~ Thich Nhat Hanh
"Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself."
~ Leo Nikolaevich Tolstoy
According to a study, they found common words used by happy people are, joy, love and hopeful. And they also found common words used by other people
to describe happy people. Annoying, irritating, obnoxious...
People spend a lifetime searching for happiness; looking for peace. They chase idle dreams, addictions, religions, even other people, hoping to fill
the emptiness that plagues them. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within.
~ Ramona L. Anderson
Music washes away from the soul the dust of everyday life.
~ Berthold Auerbach
"I have experienced many terrible things in life, some of which actually happened" ~Mark Twain
I found that in prison that I had more time to read the Bible, I had more time to contemplate life, and more time to look upon my fellow man. And I
worked very hard during the period in there to help other people in the same situation. And I think that even in the most dastardly people, there is a
goodness there, and you've got to find that goodness.
~ Alan Bond
"Ask not that events should happen as you will, but let your will be that events should happen as they do, and you shall have peace."
“To be nobody but yourself in a world that's doing its best to make you somebody else, is to fight the hardest battle you are ever going to fight.
Never stop fighting.”
"Society honors its living conformists and its dead troublemakers."
~ Mignon McLaughlin
"The whole problem with the world is that fools and fanatics are always so certain of themselves, and wiser people so full of doubts."
- Bertrand Russell
"I respect you too much to respect your ridiculous ideas." - Richard Dawkins
"Do not overrate what you have received, nor envy others. He who envies others does not obtain peace of mind."
All freedom is our natural and eternal right, not the gift of some dark suit or uniform to decide if it's gonna give it to us or not. - David Icke
"I do not fear death. I had been dead for billions and billions of years before I was born, and had not suffered the slightest inconvenience from
it." - Mark Twain
"A friend is someone who knows all about you and and still likes you."
~ Elbert Hubbard
“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.”
“Forgiveness is not always easy. At times, it feels more painful than the wound we suffered, to forgive the one that inflicted it. And yet, there is
no peace without forgiveness.”
~ Marianne Williamson
"Show me a sane man and I will cure him for you."
~ C. G. Jung
"Let everyone sweep in front of his own door and the whole world will be clean."
"Having more money does not insure happiness. People with ten million dollars are no happier than people with nine million dollars."
~ Hobart Brown
"Welcome anything that comes to you, but do not long for anything else."
~ Andre Gide
"When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don't blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer,
or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person. But if we know
how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and
arguments. That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you
can love, and the situation will change."
~ Thich Nhat Hanh
"When I was a boy of 14, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be 21, I was astonished at how
much he had learned in 7 years!"
~ Mark Twain
"Normal is getting dressed in clothes that you buy for work and driving through traffic in a car that you are still paying for - in order to get to
the job you need to pay for the clothes and the car, and the house you leave vacant all day so you can afford to live in it."
~ Ellen DeGeneres
"Everybody on earth knowing that beauty is beautiful makes ugliness. Everybody knowing that goodness is good makes wickedness For being and nonbeing
arise together; hard and easy complete each other; long and short shape each other; high and low depend on each other; note and voice make the music
together; before and after follow each other." - Lao Tzu
"We are so accustomed to disguise ourselves to others that in the end we become disguised to ourselves."
~ François Duc de La Rochefoucauld
"Remember that happiness is as contagious as gloom. It should be the first duty of those who are happy to let others know of their gladness."
"If you cannot mould yourself entirely as you would wish, how can you expect other people to be entirely to your liking?"
~ Thomas Kempis
It's very easy to fall into the trap of reacting to other people's behaviour. If someone is rude to us, or if an impatient driver cuts us off in the
street, we become annoyed. Instead of feeling annoyed, try to feel compassion by putting yourself in their shoes. Imagine how bad you'd feel to be
rude to another person, or how stressed you would feel to be in such a hurry. By taking the focus away from yourself, you realise that other people
potentially have problems worse than your own, so be thankful for what you have.
As human beings we all want to be happy and free from misery.
We have learned that the key to happiness is inner peace.
The greatest obstacles to inner peace are disturbing emotions such as
anger and attachment, fear and suspicion,
while love and compassion, a sense of universal responsibility
are the sources of peace and happiness.
"If there were in the world today any large number of people who desired their own happiness more than they desired the unhappiness of others, we
could have paradise in a few years."
~ Bertrand Russell
“Happiness is a butterfly, which when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you.”
~ Nathaniel Hawthorne
Life isn't like a book. Life isn't logical or sensible or orderly. Life is a mess most of the time. And theology must be lived in the midst of that
-Charles Caleb Colton
Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could; some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can.
Tomorrow is a new day; you shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
Life is a grindstone. Whether it grinds us down or polishes us up depends on us.
-Thomas L. Holdcroft
You must understand the whole of life, not just one little part of it. That is why you must read, that is why you must look at the skies, that is why
you must sing and dance, and write poems, and suffer, and understand, for all that is life.
Life is the only art that we are required to practice without preparation, and without being allowed the preliminary trials, the failures and botches,
that are essential for training.
You live in a deranged age, more deranged that usual, because in spite of great scientific and technological advances, man has not the faintest idea
of who he is or what he is doing.
If you can spend a perfectly useless afternoon in a perfectly useless manner, you have learned how to live.
Strange is our situation here upon earth. Each of us comes for a short visit, not knowing why, yet sometimes seems to divine a purpose. From the
standpoint of daily life, however, there is one thing we do know:
That people are here for the sake of other people. Above all, for those upon whose smile and well-being our own happiness depends. And also for the
countless unknown souls with whose fate we are connected by a bond of sympathy. Many times a day I realize how much my own outer and inner life is
built upon the labors of others people, both living and dead. And how earnestly I must exert myself in order to give in return as much as I have
received. And I am still receiving. - Einstein
You do not acquire happiness. Your nature is happiness. -
The tragedy of human history is decreasing happiness in the midst of increasing comforts.
We must distinguish between learning, accumulation of knowledge, and understanding or knowing, the immediate insight into our real nature.
Appropriation of facts is necessary when studying a trade, an instrument, a language, and so on. But we cannot acquire what we fundamentally are. We
can only recognise it. Recognition is an instantaneous happening.
Never discourage anyone who continually makes progress, no matter how slow.
We are here on earth to do good for others.
What the others are here for, I don't know.
W. H. Auden
There are no uninteresting things, only uninterested people.
Gilbert K. Chesterton
Use what talent you possess: the woods would be very silent if no birds sang except those that sang best.
Henry Van Dyke
People seem not to see that their opinion of the world is also a confession of character.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Real knowledge is to know the extent of one's ignorance. - Confucius
When you see a good man, try to emulate his example, and when you see a bad man, search yourself for his faults. - Confucius
It is not the failure of others to appreciate your abilities that should trouble you, but rather your failure to appreciate theirs. - Confucius
“Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared"
- Siddattha Gotama/Buddha
The cells of our body are dying, the neurons in our brain are decaying, even the expressions on our face are always changing, depending on our mood.
What we call our basic character is only a “mindstream,” nothing more. Today we feel good because things are going well; tomorrow we feel the
opposite. Where did that good feeling go?
All the fragmented aspects of ourselves, which had been at war, settle and dissolve and become friends. In that settling we begin to understand
ourselves more, and sometimes even have glimpses of the radiance of our fundamental nature.
Should you flush your Valium and Prozac down the toilet? No, not yet. Begin with small actions to help others - empty the garbage can without being
asked, clean up your own mess in the kitchen, polish the shoes of others. Smile occasionally. Gradually build up the courage and determination to
confront your self-cherishing mind and declare yourself a slave and friend of all living beings. Then you will extract more joy from cleaning up
somebody else's mess in the kitchen than you will ever get from watching television. Not only will this lift your depression, it will place you on
the path to bliss.
- Ven. Thubten Gyatso
The aim of psychoanalysis is to relieve people of their neurotic unhappiness so that they can be normally unhappy.
~ Sigmund Freud
The idea that some lives matter less is the root of all that's wrong with the world.
- Paul Farmer
We ordinary individuals share the characteristic of having our attempts to gain happiness thwarted by our own destructive self-centeredness. It is
unsuitable to keep holding onto the self-centered attitude while ignoring others.
If two friends find themselves floundering in a muddy swamp they should not ridicule each other, but combine their energies to get out. Both ourselves
and others are in the same position of wanting happiness and not wanting suffering, but we are entangled in a web of ignorance that prevents us from
achieving those goals. Far from regarding it as an "every man for himself" situation, we should meditate upon the equality of self and others and
the need to be helpful to other beings.
- From Bodhicitta: Cultivating the Compassionate Mind of Enlightenment by Ven. Lobsang Gyatso
I believe all suffering is caused by ignorance. People inflict pain on others in the selfish pursuit of their happiness or satisfaction. Yet true
happiness comes from a sense of peace and contentment, which in turn must be achieved through the cultivation of altruism, of love and compassion, and
elimination of ignorance, selfishness, and greed.
I believe that the very purpose of life is to be happy. From the very core of our being, we desire contentment.
It is easy to point out the mistakes of others, while it is hard to admit one´s own mistakes. A man broadcasts the sins of others without thinking,
but he hides his own sins as a gambler hides his extra dice.
The realization that we are all basically the same human beings who seek happiness and try to avoid suffering is very helpful in developing a sense of
brotherhood and sisterhood; a warm feeling of love and compassion for others.
After one look at this planet any visitor from outer space would say 'I want to see the manager'
~ William S. Burroughs
A gem cannot be polished without friction, nor a man perfected without trials.
~ Lucius Annaeus Seneca
"Life is a mystery; the more you know it, the more beautiful it is. A moment comes when suddenly you start living it, you start flowing with it. An
orgasmic relationship evolves between you and life, but you cannot figure out what it is. That's the beauty of it, that's its infinite depth."
To be hopeful in bad times is not just foolishly romantic. It is based on the fact that human history is a history not only of cruelty, but also of
compassion, sacrifice, courage, kindness.
What we choose to emphasize in this complex history will determine our lives. If we see only the worst, it destroys our capacity to do something. If
we remember those times and places -- and there are so many -- where people have behaved magnificently, this gives us the energy to act, and at least
the possibility of sending this spinning top of a world in a different direction.
And if we do act, in however small a way, we don't have to wait for some grand utopian future. The future is an infinite succession of presents, and
to live now as we think human beings should live, in defiance of all that is bad around us, is itself a marvelous victory.
- Howard Zinn
Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of
which have the potential to turn a life around.
- Leo Buscaglia
"Let us learn to accept ourselves--accept the truth that we are capable in some directions and limited in others, that genius is rare, that
mediocrity is a portion of almost all of us, but that we can contribute from the storehouse of our skills to the enrichment of our common life."
~ Joshua Liebman
Ego is the problem. Sometimes ego is very spoiled, like a child who is constantly throwing tantrums. Sometimes ego doesn't accept where we are.
Sometimes ego doesn't accept who we are. Sometimes ego doesn't accept the way things are without any real complaint. So what do we do? There is
nothing that we can do. Sometimes ego doesn't accept the fact that the sky is blue but there is nothing that we can do. You see. Sometimes ego
doesn't accept that we are living on a planet that is permeated with natural disasters, earthquakes, floods, and other catastrophes. All we can do is
accept that and learn how to surrender to the flow of all events.
~ Anam Thubten
"Reflect on your present blessings, of which every man has many; not on your past misfortunes of which all men have some"
~ Charles Dickens
"Can you see the holiness in those things you take for granted--a paved road or a washing machine? If you concentrate on finding what is good in
every situation, you will discover that your life will suddenly be filled with gratitude, a feeling that nurtures the soul."
~ Rabbi Harold Kushner
We've all heard that a million monkeys banging on a million typewriters will eventually reproduce the entire works of Shakespeare. Now, thanks to the
Internet, we know this is not true!
~ Robert Wilensky
We often think of peace as the absence of war; that if the powerful countries would reduce their arsenals, we could have peace. But if we look deeply
into the weapons, we see our own minds - our prejudices, fears, and ignorance. Even if we transported all the bombs to the moon, the roots of war and
the reasons for bombs would still be here, in our hearts and minds, and sooner or later we would make new bombs. Seek to become more aware of what
causes anger and separation, and what overcomes them. Root out the violence in your life, and learn to live compassionately and mindfully - Thich Nhat
A Zen master once said to me, "Do the opposite of whatever I tell you."
So I didn't. - Anon
He who angers you conquers you.
~ Elizabeth Kenny
Never be in a hurry; do everything quietly and in a calm spirit. Do not lose your inner peace for anything whatsoever, even if your whole world seems
~ Saint Francis de Sales
If everyone thought before they spoke, the silence would be deafening.
~ George Barzan
We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts we make the world.
Getting rid of things and
clinging to emptiness
is an illness of the same kind;
It is just like throwing oneself into a fire
to avoid being drowned
-Master Yung Chia
My life is my message.
"Opportunities to find deeper powers within ourselves come when life seems most challenging.”
~ Joseph Campbell
Don't say you don't have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michaelangelo,
Mother Teresa, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein.
~ H. Jackson Browne
I believe that at every level of society the key to a happier world is the growth of compassion. We do not need to become religious, nor do we need to
believe in an ideology. All that is necessary is for each of us to develop our good human qualities.
~ The 14th Dalai Lama
"A human being is a part of a whole, called by us 'universe', a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings
as something separated from the rest... a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to
our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of
compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty."
~ Albert Einstein
Nature does not hurry yet it accomplishes everything.
"When the power of love overcomes the love of power, then there will be true peace."
~ Sri Chin Moi Gosh
"We are not compelled to meditate by some outside agent, by other people, or by God. Rather, just as we are responsible for our own suffering, so are
we solely responsible for our own cure. We have created the situation in which we find ourselves, and it is up to us to create the circumstances for
~ Lama Yeshe
"Those who can laugh without cause have either found the true meaning of happiness or have gone stark raving mad."
~ Norm Papernick
"An expert is a man who tells you a simple thing in a confused way in such a fashion as to make you think the confusion is your own fault."
~ William Castle
"Man was predestined to have free will."
~ Hal Lee Luyah
“The reason people find it so hard to be happy is that they always see the past better than it was, the present worse than it is, and the future
less resolved than it will be.”
~ Marcel Pagnol
"Each second we live is a new and unique moment of the universe, a moment that will never be again. And what do we teach out children? We teach them
that two and two make four, and that Paris is the capital of France. When will we also teach them what they are? We should say to each of them: Do you
know what you are? You are a marvel. You are unique. In all the years that have passed, there has never been another child like you. Your legs, your
arms, your clever fingers, the way you move. You may become a Shakespeare, a Michelangelo, a Beethoven. You have the capacity for anything. Yes, you
are a marvel. And when you grow up, can you then harm another who is, like you, a marvel? You must work, we must all work, to make the world worthy of
~ Pablo Casals
"The only problem in your life is your mind's resistance to life as it unfolds."
~ Dan Millman
"There is always something to do. There are hungry people to feed, naked people to clothe, sick people to comfort and make well. And while I don't
expect you to save the world I do think it's not asking too much for you to love those with whom you sleep, share the happiness of those whom you
call friend, engage those among you who are visionary and remove from your life those who offer you depression, despair and disrespect."
~ Nikki Giovanni
"Love and concern for all are not things some of us are born with and others are not. Rather, they are results of what we do with our minds: We can
choose to transform our minds so that they embody love, or we can allow them to develop habits and false concepts of separation."
~ Sharon Salzberg
A happy life must be to a great extent a quiet life, for it is only in an atmosphere of quiet that true joy dare live.
Advocates of capitalism are very apt to appeal to the sacred principles of liberty, which are embodied in one maxim: The fortunate must not be
restrained in the exercise of tyranny over the unfortunate.
I've made an odd discovery. Every time I talk to a savant I feel quite sure that happiness is no longer a possibility. Yet when I talk with my
gardener, I'm convinced of the opposite.
It has been said that man is a rational animal. All my life I have been searching for evidence which could support this.
It is preoccupation with possessions, more than anything else, that prevents us from living freely and nobly.
Men are born ignorant, not stupid. They are made stupid by education.
None but a coward dares to boast that he has never known fear.
Obscenity is whatever happens to shock some elderly and ignorant magistrate.
Patriots always talk of dying for their country and never of killing for their country.
The good life is one inspired by love and guided by knowledge.
The infliction of cruelty with a good conscience is a delight to moralists. That is why they invented Hell.
The megalomaniac differs from the narcissist by the fact that he wishes to be powerful rather than charming, and seeks to be feared rather than loved.
To this type belong many lunatics and most of the great men of history.
The only thing that will redeem mankind is cooperation.
The point of philosophy is to start with something so simple as not to seem worth stating, and to end with something so paradoxical that no one will
The secret to happiness is to face the fact that the world is horrible.
Thought is subversive and revolutionary, destructive and terrible, Thought is merciless to privilege, established institutions, and comfortable habit.
Thought is great and swift and free.
To be without some of the things you want is an indispensable part of happiness.
We are faced with the paradoxical fact that education has become one of the chief obstacles to intelligence and freedom of thought.
“The House of Lords is the British Outer Mongolia for retired politicians.” - Tony Benn
"I do not share the general view that market forces are the basis for political liberty. Every time I see a homeless person living in a cardboard box
in London, I see that person as a victim of market forces. Everytime I see a pensioner who cannot manage, I know that he is a victim of market
forces" - Tony Benn