How to deal with people who have an inflated ego.................?

I found this question posted in many different places because I have a certain VP at work that has this issue. I deal with it in my own way and based on the answer that was given I am seemingly on the right track.

So I decided to share it with BTS in the event that there are people in your life that are plagued with this same unbecoming issue. The answer that I found most similar to the way I handle it, and have handled it in the past is this:

Inflate it more to explode the E..........G..........O into many pieces.

In other words, I interpret that as: Kill them with kindness!

So far, the results of which are usually met with a look of bewilderment and the body language is interpreted as:

"Why do my powers not work on this one?" ...in which I usually walk away with a piece of that persons now "exploded" E G O to add to my own humbled ego. However, my ego is rationed out accordingly, as should everyone's in this world.

Just a friendly post for your reading pleasure.

Respectfully,
UberL33t

Hmm...I find that boosting these egomaniacs just makes it worse. That's like an egogasm to them. oO

reply to post by dude69


Initially I did too, however, this E G O bomb if you will, needs a steady supply of fuel in order to eventually explode. Keep pouring on the fuel (kindness), and soon enough...

BOOM!

reply to post by UberL33t
I find that i naturally Keep pumping it up,then i burst when i feel like it,end of chat..but ya can always tell them to have a smoke or a beer.If not then its just natural grumpy genetics coming lol..

reply to post by UberL33t


If you are happy to have volatile and frustrating relationships with them then challenge their ego.

As a well balanced individual I have found that challenging a giant ego in any way is so utterly draining to the soul that it is not worthwhile.

If you can operate happily amidst the friction challenging a boundless ego will result in by all means do so.


I have dealt with people like this and in the name of peace I had to stop challenging them in any way.
I compensated for this by laughing about their massive ego with others who have come to the same conclusion

reply to post by mumma in pyjamas


Exactly...that's how you win against massive egos...you don't take them seriously. They'll go apesh!t...then you laugh some more.

Interesting read - thank you...
At some level I have no doubt you're right. There's not much anything or anyone can do when you continually bombard them with kindness. Actually a pretty cool thought when you think about it. WE give them hate, it only rebounds on us... Give them kindness - wow - that's all good.

Great thread!

(And no, that was not to inflate your ego, hehehe)

hugs and peace

I'd offer him a breath mint, pause and then tell him go ahead and keep the whole roll. Maybe add a little cough as you do so.

As someone who comes across quite often as an Inflated Ego myself
(on my bad days :duh
is it possible this Other Inflated Ego is misunderstood?
Also, killing me with kindness would never work...
The most effective way of dealing with me in general is to ignore me completely when I'm power-tripping or just generally riding roughshod over everybody else in the workplace etc.
It doesn't get my goat, it gains my respect and force me to proceed with caution around the people standing their ground against me.
This eventually meekens my spirit/ Ego and creates a much nicer environment.

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I don't feel that your ego is as inflated as you think if I may be so bold to say. Usually, at least in my experience, that is ultimately what they want is for you to ignore them, as you are beneath them and this would be a plus as they then wouldn't be required to interact with you. Killing them with kindness with a constant barrage of sorts, I've found gives them no choice but to have to interact.

This works even better when other people are around, because they will do anything to maintain the illusion that they are awesome in every way, even if they do have to mingle with what they deem as otherwise unworthy people to maintain their usually translucent image. I could be wrong about you specifically, nevertheless, killing with kindness has yet to falter when I chose the tactic as a defense against an inflated ego.

There is a difference in being confident and having an inflated ego. Generally the person with the inflated ego will claim this is all it is, confidence.

Just punch em in the face.
Hard to have an inflated ego with a bloodied face and teary eyed.

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In a perfect world of course

reply to post by UberL33t


Of course

The goal shouldn't be to make the ego balloon pop, but inflate the ego balloon so much that either my its own pressure it explodes, or as soon as something goes wrong it all goes to hell. Subterfuge!

If you like seeing someone else in ruin you get 2(+) times the investment back.

Exploit their ignorance with seemingly innocent statements that aren't directed towards them. Nothing is better than making a "know it all" rethink their position without saying a word to them.

I'm not sure about killing a persons ego with kindness,especially an insincere kindness.

I know very manipulative people who operate this way, being insincerely kind, and throwing out lil barbs of sarcasm hidden under benevolent sounding statements.

I have more respect for the person ,with the inflated ego,then the dangerously manipulative people, with the seemingly kind words,but carry the dagger behind their backs.

I my opinion, they are much worse,and far more harmful to all , than the egomaniac.

i honestly try not to let it get underneath my skin. inflated ego=insecurity. my brother has this and i either avoid him or nod silently when he talks.

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I would have and had keep quiet also as my brother was scolded by his mother. His arrogance tends to cloud his "common sense/logic". Tonight, a break-through has been made --- "kind" words of hope. And he actually listened.