posted on Apr, 27 2011 @ 03:25 PM
reply to post by cabinda
He does sound like a real nasty piece of work!
One tip I found on a website after Googling the same problem was this: Try to envision a bright light surrounding you, emanating a positivity in all
directions. Practise this before encountering this person, to be sure you can consistently hold this frame of mind.
Obviously you're going to have a few slip ups where he will still get to you, it happens to me when I'm tired or hungry. If this happens, then at your
earliest convenience, take a break to recuperate and refocus by whatever means. Then get back to it at full energy.
Unfortunately this guy has affected you to the point where you are now discussing him in your free time. Which is feeding his negativity and weakening
your resolve. You have to try to focus on positive things.
Another really good tip to do that I picked up a few years ago and has helped me no end. What you do is think of positive things from your past, or a
friend, or loved one who makes you feel completely at ease, more than that in fact, something that makes you feel confident!
Really focus on this positive experience or person, and when you do, carry out a unique yet subtle mannerism. Such as squeezing on your right thumb,
with your left thumb and pointer, gently pinching it. Do this repetitively each time you visualise the positive experience, lock it into your memory
to associate it with this unique gesture. Eventually the feeling of positivity will be bonded to this gesture, so that in any situation all you have
to do is your unique gesture and you will feel instantly more at ease.
Speaking from experience this really works. I used the thought of the first time I caught a wave and stood up on my surf board, and the time when my
friend got his head shaved in the middle keeping the hair around the sides!
edit on 27-4-2011 by Big Raging Loner because: To correct spelling.