Facebook: Where Narcissists Connect (and how it isn't healthy), page 1


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Topic started on 24-4-2011 @ 01:38 PM by ButterCookie
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Check the article:
Facebook and Narcissism

"They're well-liked upon initial meetings, but have more difficulty maintaining "warm and intimate relationships".

The meat and potatoes of the article:

For people with narcissistic qualities, Buffardi said, social networking sites are effective vehicles of self-promotion. Online, they can assemble armies of casual friends, choose the photos in which they look most attractive and, through quotes and comments about themselves, create a compelling personal narrative.

As social networking sites gain traction among greater swaths of the population -- Facebook now has more than 100 million members -- psychologists are becoming increasingly interested in how personality traits are expressed on the Internet. This study was one of the first attempts to achieve that. "These sites, like MySpace and Facebook, are becoming vastly popular. Lots of individuals are posting information about themselves and some psychologists have wanted to determine how narcissism manifests itself on Facebook," Buffardi said, adding that her study focused on narcissism as a trait, not a clinical disorder.

People identified as narcissistic in this study may have inflated views of themselves, she said. But they don't necessarily need to seek therapy for what can be a severe personality disorder. Buffardi and Campbell were particularly interested in narcissism because, while it may find expression online, it can hinder the creation of healthy relationships offline.

Wendy Behary, a narcissism expert and the author of "Disarming the Narcissist," told ABCNews.com that Facebook allows narcissists to remain disconnected from true intimacy and maintain a lack of accountability. They may look like they have a ton of friends, but they're actually affiliates, or awestruck followers, she said.

"At the core of most people who are narcissistic, underneath they often feel inadequate, lonely [and] a sense of shame because they haven't learned the skills to connect with someone in a real way," she said. "Facebook allows them to stay in hiding."

In addition to finding that people who score higher on narcissism personality tests tend to have more friends and wall posts on Facebook, the study also noted that they chose more glamorous photographs.





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reply posted on 24-4-2011 @ 01:49 PM by kylioneXsushi
reply to post by ButterCookie



I use Facebook to talk to friend and have an online profile. I only post statuses that are inspirational and informative. This is simply a generalization.


reply posted on 24-4-2011 @ 01:55 PM by ButterCookie
reply to post by RainboStar



Plus, people should realize that there is no REAL need to stay 'connected' with people from high school, for example.

You are a different person and so are they. You just knew them a long time ago and that's that, but for some reason, we have a paranoid-type desire to stay 'connected', even though we will never ask these people to have lunch, meet-up, or even call on the phone.


reply posted on 24-4-2011 @ 02:06 PM by RicoMarston
reply to post by kylioneXsushi



while it may be a slight generalization, the OP is merely pointing out the fact that facebook promotes unhealthy character traits. no one is saying facebook MAKES you narcissistic, just that it would enhance those qualities.

Like you, I'm among the most relaxed FB users. i log into my account two or three times a week on average to check if i have new messages from (real-life) friends and read some pages started by local music groups and activists in my hometown. i don't think folks like us need to worry about the negative effects of FB, as we are not on it enough.

but the kids who use the status update as a diary, comment on all of their friends' newest pictures (so sexay, guuurl!), play the stupid little mini-games? and the most alarming; the people who stay up until 3am FBing and then type "good night facebook!" into the status? i worry about the coming generation relying too much on, and taking for granted, internet related socializing. what happens when the plug gets pulled? or when your "friends" in real life aren't anything like on their profiles?


reply posted on 24-4-2011 @ 02:22 PM by TV_Nation
reply to post by kylioneXsushi



You dont sound like you fit the bill for a Narcissist. They are not saying that everyone who uses facebook is a Narcissist but it is easy to point out the ones who are...

I also have a FB and I rarely post on my wall because I don't think people need to know what I ate for dinner or who I hung out with this past weekend... I just use it to stay informed about social events and to chat with friends once in a while.

On the other hand I have friends who have like a thousand friends when they are only truly friends with a handful of those people. Not to mention they post every damn unintersting thing that happens to them. They also constantly change their profile pics and some have even had professional photos taken for their profile picture... It's kinda sad when you think about it lol.



reply posted on 24-4-2011 @ 02:37 PM by ButterCookie
reply to post by TV_Nation



Exactly.

When people use the reason that they keep a FB account 'to connect and chat with old long-time-ago friends', I am hardley convinced, no offense, as I used that reason myself.

But when you really look at it, they have changed and you have too. There's nothing more in common, and the only thing that was in common back in the day was that you attended the same high school.

I understand that people are able to really get a genuine connection from true friends from the past, but the problem arises when you notice that you and that person don't even hang out, email, or call.

Your friendship is now a virtual one, nothing more.


reply posted on 24-4-2011 @ 02:44 PM by TV_Nation
reply to post by ButterCookie



I only have around 60 friends on my facebook... I only friend requested people that are still in my life because like I said above what is the point of having 1000 friends when you are friends with just about none of them.

Also I have only had a FB account for 2 months lol so I am not really into it considering I was about 5 years late to the party.


reply posted on 24-4-2011 @ 03:07 PM by ButterCookie
reply to post by TV_Nation



Thats cool!

Again, the article isn't implying that only narcissists have FB accounts...It shows the correlation between a narcisistic personality and how FB tends to bring it out of ya...


reply posted on 24-4-2011 @ 04:38 PM by Wonders
reply to post by ButterCookie



I agree with the article. I believe that the #1 hindrance to healthy close and meaningful relationships is dishonesty and deceptiveness which leads to lonliness, which leads people trying to compensate with facebook.
Another thing is that society makes it seem as though it's wrong to feel insecure. Insecurity is very common, yet people are afraid to own up and therefore they take pains to conceal their true emotions. Take for example women who dresses promiscuously, you can bet that she's working hard to hide her insecurity.
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