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Originally posted by lpowell0627
There is a very fine line between helping and enabling, even for those with the best of intentions.
Sometimes the best way to help someone is to simply remove yourself and wait until he/she hits rock bottom and be there for him/her when they do...and IF he/she wants your help at that point.
If you really feel this person is serious and in imminent danger of killing himself/herself, contact this persons' parents, relatives, etc., or if that's not possible, contact a hospital, suicide hotline, and/or police.
Once that is done, don't look back and be confident that you did everything you could do.
Yes, it all reads a lot easier than it actually is, however, sometimes the best thing you can do, given what you've already done, is to now save yourself.
Be well, sister. Just remember and do better next time.
Basically i have had enough of his refusal to help himself,so i am pretty much over it,but the only way to know if he is serious is for him to dangle from a rope.
Originally posted by kittendaydreamer
reply to post by 12voltz
That's awesome that you offered a way out of the bad situation for your friend
...as far as being cold to them or give hope how about a little of both. Something to the effect of yes ___________ sucks but if you _________ eventually things will get better (list how) and that's what you want right? Or do you want to stay in this funk you're in? So suck it up and lets get things going well for you again.
Of course that's just my opinion.
Originally posted by 12voltz
I have had enough of the self indulgent ,selfish ,suicidal ramblings of a good friend,I started offering help and a way out of his predicament.A new start if you will ,a chance to pick up the pieces and turn his life around,but No ,always an excuse not to break out of the routine,to scared to leave the box ,rather just wallow in his own self pity.
Now i have become cold to his struggle ,i'm over it.I feel used for showing compassion and dont care anymore to the point where i just think i might tell him to stop talking about it and just get on with it.He is obviously depressed ,and i know how depression can be like a virus that spreads through your body and just eats away at any self worth.But what can you say to these people?.Should i be cold and heartless or just swallow my pride and keep crawling ,telling him how things will be better,Things always get better.