reply to post by emptyOmind
I like the sort of NLP/conditioning strategy you mention, easy enough, will sure try it for size. Could be handy if my other technique won't work.
My take on emotions is that they are the minds equivivalent to sensory input. When something touches the skin it gives a sensory response, when
something touches the mind it gives a sensory response. In this way I try to cope with, say, anxiety by initially embrase it, accept it and properly
identify the cause of the sensation. Once I've identified the cause I must then accept it's value to me. This is not always an easy task since it
often means having to accept vulnerabilities, weaknesses or less flattering charachteristics of one´s person. But is has to be done. Stuff seldomly
dissapear by ignoring them. They lay there, silently seeping whatever they are made of.
Once I've accepted the value of a particular thing I can then cut of the feeling that made me aware of it. Now I am aware and I know it's value.
I'm kind of certain most negative feelings stems from dissonance between what we wish and what we experience. At this stage of the process I'm left
with something which I know has a negative impact on me. Here is when I start to rearrange what meaning/value I will let it have. Imagine that we all
have compartments into which stuff autonomously get distributed in respect to previous experiences. Every compartment sets of a specific sensation to
notify for example "hey, this experience you have with your co-worker just landed in the anxiety-bin", thus interaction with this person make you
feel uneasy. Now imagine viewing ANYTHING as an entity. Absolutely nothing carries with it some kind of inherent meaning, a bottle doesn't radiate
it's bottleness so that we may percieve it as a bottle. A bottle is to us what we've learned it is and our relation to it might be reflected in our
experience of glass, shape of round things etc etc. The same goes with my experience with my co-worker, the interaction as an entity does not hold
properties of it's own.
Now, knowing this I have the luxury of being able to rearrange in which bin I keep any given entity. Well, not any given, some # is f**kn heavy to
move, but with the co-worker example I easily chuck it in the neutral-bin. Sure, he's still a dick and we don't get along, but it won't set off any
feelings at all. I may then approach our interaction rationally and make the best of the situation without feelings of stress or whatnot.
Ultimately I wish to gain the mental presence as to really being able to choose the meaning of all things. Imagine breaking your arm really messy,
bonepipes poking out, pain increasing as you watch your twitching fingers at the end of a suddenly new acquired limb in the middle of your forearm
which lets the last part dangle in a 90 degree angle from the rest of the limb. Sounds start to become distanced and blurry, eyesight hazy, cold
sticky sweat trickling out from every pore." Damn it hurts, and obviously I'm going into chock too. Now wait a minute! How about I go and redirect
this sensation of pain into the reward-centre of my brain instead? Ye! There we go! Ah! What a terriffic pain! Great stuff! Now, off to the doctors to
patch this mess up, can't be walking about with a bleeding arm flapping around all day."
That would be neat.