Ok,I know what some are gonna think by reading the title. I have a feeling that some will take this thread the wron way and might think that Im
complaining,but Im not...I am just asking the question, "why cant we here at ATS make all members, new or old, feel welcome instead of feeling like an
outsider or that their opinions dont matter?"
I myself am a newer member and I have gotten this first hand. I know I have only been here for just over a month and a 1/2 but Im starting to feel
more and mor comfortable with posting, threads and stuff like that. When I first joined I shied away a little but I soon decided to jump in,go for it
and get my opinions and points out amongst the others. Thats one of the reasons why I finally joined,so I could learn new things about most of the
material on this site and put my 2 cents in along the way...I have personnaly seen posts by members saying that they dont even read posts by members
that havent been a member for at least 6 months..Why is this? I believe that whether youre new or old that an opinion is an opinion and good points no
matter who theyre from should still be heard...Im new but sometimes I'll find newer members post just as good if not better than members that have
been here for awhile...I dont see the point of discriminating and making people feel unwanted or that their point of views or opinions arent as
important as others..The only difference I see between newbies and vets are their stars and flags..Newbies need to be giving a chance to get their
credability built up so they one day can join the higher ranks one day and not just brush em off because they are new. Everone here was once a newbie
and know what I am saying..I thought we all joined this site for our voices to be heard?
I have also noticed favoritism towards other posters. I dont understand why members choose to star and flag a thread a gazillion times depending on
who the OP is and their stats. I know people will say this isnt true and the dont pay attention to the who the OP is or look at stats. They'll say it
depends on what the subject of the thread is. I have been shot done before on the theory before. But I have seen it happen even if the info provided
in the thread was not any better or different then another thread that will end disappearing into the long list without even being noticed sometimes.
I believe in giving everyone a shot and not picking and choosing depending how long the OP has been a member...
What got me to write this was a U2U message I recieved from a fellow member that has actually been here for over a year and still feels like shes
being ignored..It made me feel horrible and I didnt even mean to ignore her. I mean I starred her posts and everything I just didnt get a chance to
respond to everyone and now I feel horrible because she actually made good points and shared her opinions and expeiances with me and she deserverd a
response...heres the U2U she sent...
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"Is there a specific reason why you chose to ignore my comment to you on your thread. In fact is there a specific reason you are completely ignoring
me in your thread? Did I say something to offend you? Is it something that I did to somebody else you know?
I'm asking you this, as this is not the first time I've been given the cold shoulder like this it happens all the time. And I wish somebody would for
crying out loud just tell me what I did wrong? It has seriously made me feel like I am unworthy of posting in threads, hence more and more I have
chosen to just not post at all. Maybe you will explain to me then, since you did it too, what's with the ignoring of people, who speak to you
directly?
I actually believe you, and tried to post a comment that would be helpful, which is what you asked for, I was not one of the ones trying to diss you,
I even stand up for you and what you believe happened to you. Yet I see you replying to even those that did try to offend you, and diss you, and not
me, therefor, yes, I'm taking it personally. I after months of this treatment from ATS I am asking you, why? What did I do wrong? What was my huge
unforgivable sin that I get this treatment from 99% of ATS? Is it just my profile? I make a comment and ATS'ers visit the person's profile first to
get an impression and decide then if they will answer them or not? If so, what on my profile don't you like?
I used to think, you know , it's probably just a common ATS thing or maybe because I'm new, but after seeing you reply to even people that diss you,
and not me, I'm realizing, that no, it's not a common thing, this is actually against me personally, and I don't know why or what it is that I did
wrong.
Actually, you know, what, I'm probably not going to get an answer from you anyway, why on earth would you acknowledge me here, if you don't answer me
in public. Don't worry about it, I'm just going to leave ATS. I've had enough of the "some are better and more worthy than others" attitude. I'm just
sending it anyway, so that you know, that I am aware of the ignoring. Whatever man. "
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See I know from now on I am going to make sure that if someone even only shares some advice Im going to at least make an effort to get a reply to
them,whether its on the thread or U2U...Afetr reading that I instantly messaged back an apologized for being a turd...
So the questions are.......
How many others feel like their points and opinions get ignored?
Who else sees discrimination on here and why is it okay?
why not make everyone feel like they are a part of something special when they join ATS?
We are all here for the same reasons,ANSWERS and to learn,so why cant we all be treated equally and fairly and NOT SEGREGATE ourselves? I believe ATS
to be a community,at last when I joined, I figured that the way people treat others in the real world would at least stay there and that everyone that
decided to join ATS would be different then the other people that have ruined the real world for all of us...
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