posted on Apr, 3 2011 @ 08:54 PM
For those that say suffering is part of life and folks should deal with it. That is easier said when one has not watched someone be tormented for
months or years or experienced it themselves. Pain is a part of life, but there is a threshold and one should be able to decide for themselves when
that threshold is past.
My grandmother fell in her house several years back. 2 days later she was found and taken to the hospital. She only spent a week put of professional
care for another year after that. Of course she broke her hip and collar bone, but a large tumor was found in her liver that same night during scans
for injuries. It was that, that made her weak enough to fall.
The cancer quickly progressed from there as far as pain goes. We all watched a strong, solid, woman fade into a shell of weakness, indescribable pain,
along with pride lost that after 72 years she could not keep from soiling herself. A woman who gave birth to my mother with no meds in her bed at
home. 5 feet of concrete that didn't take crap, didn't shed a tear when she had 3 hernias repaired at one time and was back in the saddle again in a
week and a half. We watched for weeks on end when she could not contain her screams because the pain was so severe and the embarrassement that caused
Worst of all, we watched her beg to just be let go.
Fortunately, we had a benevolent doctor on that last trip back to the hospital from the nursing home. That night she lay in bed peacefully. Saying she
had seen her husband and the daughter I lost.... she was ready to go "home". That night she went "home" and I thanked God and the doc for it. As
much as we like to be greedy and keep the ones we love alive as long as possible... it is just that. Greed and selfishness to save ourselves from our
own pain. Loving someone enough to let them go is difficult, but one of the best gifts you can give if you ever have to.
Doctors DO give that bit of extra pain medication from time to time. I have family in the field and know it happens. Their oath has naught to do with
it. They are in the business to help people. The method of "help" could have many definitions.
I love my mother more than anything in the world.She is my best friend, my confidant, and my rock. If she suffered lke my grandmother had to, I would
wiilingly pull time in jail to "help" her put an end to it. We have discussed it many times. Everyone should make sure their wishes are known to
atleast one person if not more.
When folks say suffering is part of life, in some ways they are correct. But with the advances in medicine and treatment, a lot of times we have just
managed to draw out the suffering and misery to cruel lengths. What part of that is what we are supposed to endure, and what part can we cut out?