First off I'd like to thank those who replied, man or woman.
But the situation was never about the relationship.
I feel that when a person expects something (a ring...) to show a relationship exists, or commitment is true, why should the size matter and why does
it have to be a diamond ring? Why can't people exist together without any material, obviously consumer based, marketing strategy on their finger?
You see, it's not the idea of commitment that startles me.
It's the fact that I don't need a ring to tell someone I love them.
I don't think I need a symbol or charm to show them either.
Or a certificate?
Giving a woman everything in the world shouldn't mean buying her love.
Maybe I don't completely understand how to make women happy.
Also, I am a committed person by nature, and I can't see it being an 'insecurity'.
Does that make any sense?
Maybe I am just thinking about it too much.
Originally posted by flyingviolet
She shouldn't be asking you for a ring, you should want to give one to her.
You shouldn't be worrying about the price and she shouldn't care about the price either.
Rings don't matter anyway, love does. The ring is a symbol of your love for her.
That's the point. I want to give her my world.
Not a symbol construed from western ideals.
The price shouldn't matter, you're right.
It mattered to her.
Originally posted by stinavamp
Ok First off I have been married now for 6 years. To a woman a ring is a symbol of committment, a symbol of a man's want of her and to some woman
it's a symbol of love. The bigger the rock the more you love her.Well I don't buy into to that BS of rock= love. If a woman loves you she won't care
what ring you get her.My husband proposed to me with a gumball machine ring.He didn't have a lot of money but he wanted to show me that he wanted to
be with me and no one else. Some of my friends called him cheap, but it was the thought that counts. My wedding ring is not a diamond but a heartshape
ruby set in silver. It cost like a hundred bucks but its the most valuable item, to me, I own.My advice to you is to know that ring is an important
symbol to a woman, you just need to find one that cares more about you than her jewelry. Not all woman are materialistic. You need to find one who
suits your income.
Where do you learn that rings are symbols of commitment?
I would hope to be able to never worry about that.
Income shouldn't matter!
Originally posted by innervision0730
Every girl is different. Was she like that in the beginning or just with the ring?
She was like that towards the end, and she knew what she wanted.
She probably just got overly excited and carried away.
You don't even need to get married to show you love someone.
Wowsers, I don't think I ever heard that from a female.
Its funny because you see all the time " if we don't get married then I can't be with you and I need to move on" lol I don't get it..Marriage
is completely overrated. I also don't believe in marriage under God. I mean seriously, I don't even think marriage was invented then. I give you best
wishes on finding a non materialistic girl. They are hard to find. If she can't appreciate what little she has now then she will never be happy. I
don't have much but I have more than what homeless do; food,shelter, clothing and a few nice things.
She might have been born with a silver spoon, who knows.
To me, those things are the most important things to offer a woman.
Support unconditionally, and love.
You see, I don't see an issue with the marriage at all.
People know when to settle and stay committed, it's almost nature. (in my humble opinion)
Oh yeah and I'm done searching for non-materialistic women.
Not that I ever 'search'.
Seems I just fall into relationships.
Originally posted by mblahnikluver
Havok I only read to the point where her test was the size of the ring...
RED FLAG THERE to RUN!
I am female and I wouldnt care if my man gave me a cracker jack ring, it's the gesture and meaning behind the ring and what it means. It isn't about
the size. The size thing is just to show off!
I am also not above CZ rings...
Any women IMO that has issues with the ring size should be ditched asap. What does that say about them as a person really? To me it shows they are
shallow. I remember when I worked at Gordons Jewelers and how the women would complain about the size after their man spent HOURS picking out a ring
and being all excited. It always made me sick to see.
See, there's my point.
I honestly believe that is a real issue with relationships today.
Money or value shouldn't have to even be involved in a relationship, and it is.
In every form.
Whether I like it or not.
And I don't.
I thought that just being with and loving the person unconditionally was good enough.
For some reason, it's never enough.
All of the replies here are definitely giving me more thoughts about the entire 'system' of marriage.
(looks like I can spell marriage after all
Oh well, I am well over this "materialistic" style of people.
Not all women are like this, I know.
Just the ones I meet.
edit on 24-3-2011 by havok because: added mutter....[flashback BTS!]