posted on Mar, 23 2011 @ 09:00 AM
From the perspective of one person who- among other things- is gay, I agree with you almost completely on this. People reduce it to what they can
clearly see which is that the major difference between heterosexuals and homosexuals is "sex". From a very basic perspective, that's true. But
one thing that I think gets lost in the debate is that there is an emotional connection as well. Many people who are gay, just like many people who
are straight, usually feel an emotional and loving connection with the person they are involved with, and some of us want to express that in a more
committed way. That's where the problem arises. If I say I'm homosexual it means, to be completely accurate, I feel an attraction to a person of
the same sex which is both emotionally and often sexually driven. Any heterosexual person, given an emotional and sexual attraction, may choose to
legally define that relationship as a marriage and that marriage is given credibility by society, but such a privelege is not afforded to gay people.
The problem with that is, if legislation is passed specifically forbidding gay people the right to marriage, that could open a Pandora's box where
the powers that be can begin to tell you and anyone else they disagree with that you are not completely human, not completely equal, and all of that
for something that you didn't choose in the first place.
I realize I'm a little off subject, but you want the homosexual thing to go away. It will. Given the opportunity to legally make decisions about
who we have the right to spend the rest of our lives with in a union recognized by the government of which we are supposedly active members, you
won't have to be burdened with homosexuality. The fact is that until such a thing happens, you as a human being should understand how a ruling
body's decision concerning this could well affect you and yours in the future by allowing government to limit your rights as well, not just mine. It
never ends with just one group.
All of that said, I wish we could get past the debate about either side of the subject and move on with our lives. It shouldn't have been dragged
out this long. And I'll be the first to say, and I know a lot of gay people who would agree, I could care less about the "community" aspect of all
of this. All I've ever wanted is to live a normal life, without being given a special set of amended rights because the person I choose to spend
that life with doesn't meet the standards that other people feel are "moral" and "right" and "normal", and I don't think that's asking too
much. I bleed red the same as anybody else, I'm not mentally deficient nor am I stating that I deserve special rights. Just the same as anybody
else, because I am the same as everybody else.