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in regards to foreplay
I was hoping you could clarify.
I used to know some who chose a polyamourous relationship. In one relationship, all 3 lived together (two guys, one girl)This was a 3-some where she had a husband and a significant other and it also included children. The family unit was strong it it seemed to work well, for them.
in a majority of these types of relationships that the
woman is the one leading the both partners into the lifestyle.
I would think it would be the other way around
There's no one situation fits all in the human drama.
More money you got, more you got to lose
Originally posted by hp1229
I think they're more like friends then a married couple if they are behaving as such. Realistically this is going backwards. We are humans although still mammals, but we're definitely not animals in our instincts and thought process. However swinging to me is basically nothing more than hunger for sex that a couple has and they decide to break this barrier to satisfy their hunger. It is against the laws and rules of marriage established and derived by most societies.
Originally posted by Klassified
I've known a few couples who live this "lifestyle". But one couple in particular have been married almost 30 years, and are still like a couple of teens together. You would think they were newlyweds at times. So I guess it depends on the couple. It's not for me though. But I don't judge or begrudge anyone else if it works for them.
Originally posted by MagesticEsoteric
reply to post by hp1229
Also, I disagree with your statement that fantasizing about others aside from a spouse makes one selfish...I think if I attempted to, and then actually fulfilled my fantasy...that would make me selfish. A fantasy is a thought. It's sort of like saying that if I think about robbing a bank then I'm automatically a criminal for merely having the thought. Just my cents though
My own personal experience with men who desire such arrangements is that they tend to be effeminate. On some level they are aware of what a "proper" and healthy masculine/feminine exchange is supposed to be, but they are sufficiently feminine themselves that they are unable to provide the necessary masculine ingredients. So they arrange for those ingredients to be provided by another man who is more able to do so.
What consenting adults get up to in private is no business of anybody else.
Originally posted by rainbow101
As for the nature versus nurture on monogamy. I do not beleive that was ever instilled in me, infact the opposite should be true, I watched my mom date around, married men, single men it really didn't matter, and I figured it out all on my own that relationships are a partnership and in my eyes it should be monogomous for me. It was not instilled in me i instilled this beleife on my own.