Originally posted by MagesticEsoteric
I am interested in knowing what other members think about having open marriages or swinging with other couples.
My best friend's significant other arranged for a "date" with another couple last weekend. Apparently, it was an "amazing experience" that helped
them understand eachother and each other's needs on a much deeper level.
What do other's think about this?
The way I think about this.. is that, I do not see the rationale between people being 100% monogamous - ie. not having an interest to make love, (and
therefor -in a natural statel- also offspring) with more than just one partner.
But I also see it not rational, that we would be making love without any interest to bond with the people we are making love with somehow, because at
a deeper level when for example male gives his sperm to some woman, the males body is starting to expect some sort of outcome of that - it might not
be conscious, but this happens at a bodily level, because that is what making love is supposed to (from my understanding) lead into.. A formation of
some sort of outcome from having made that love, and that lovemaking is just a (small) part of that relationship which the making love is part of.
What I do not yet understand, is the Gay form of making love - how it fits into this, but I kind of feel that lovemaking, (or if you would like to use
the word having sex, or having intercourse), is something, that is supposed to be in its natural state a part of something that is building up between
the people making love, as in being partly a manifestation of their relationship - fellowship, intention (and the willingness) to spend time together
in future - be it in a monogamous, or in a multigamous relationship.
A magnetic bond, between the people making love - is established at that moment..
..and if it is broken afterwards ( or one of those taking part in this action, did not have the intention to have any further communication ) - the
electromagnetic fields of the beings taking part in such activity, gets unstabilized..
For a woman I would see this more difficult, bodily wise (meaning a woman might deny this from herself, but her biomagnetic body will react) - but it
might be just as deseaseful for the male, to let go of ones bodily fluids, sperm and all the little "me's" in that cocktail - and just move on to
another location where there is no connection with ones possible offspring - or knowledge of what happened to them afterwards. Mostly in todays
society, the knowledge is apparent right after having made love, or having had intercourse, due to the fact that many of us have to use some sort of
protection, from this event that would naturally take place, that is the fruitation of the whole thing.. (..which is the generation of an offspring
and a relationship or just one of them..)
..in todays society, people having any kind of physical contact with the opposite sex, are left physically un-fulfilled due to our need to protect
ourselves from having offspring (..or relations with multiple partners..), due to the constrains that it would supposedly render upon us, (..for
example both the physical and mental constraings in such a case..) if we as males happened to impregnate someone, or a woman happened to get
pregnant.. (..which should be only natural..)
Also due to the christianic monogamousness, that is nearly a law, we always need to (mentally) prepare for an ending of a relationship, if we choose
to make love with someone else..
This is how I see it, psychologically it can be quite a strain to have intercourse with even one person - without the man or woman acknowledging the
fact that their bodies are naturally waiting for an outcome, or a bigger picture to emerge, within which, and as a part of it "the lovemaking should
have been taking place".
Which is also the reason for many irrational fightings between couples, that are from my point of view totally un-needed.. There is always that fear
of loosing ones love, if one of the people in a relationship would happen to spend some sexual encountering with another being - that is something
both parties, the man, and the woman, in the relationship will psychologically prepare for..
..which is always a precursor for war..
I do not see that these quarrels are peoples fault by default, but that our societal structure actually forces us to fight eachother, because of the
Christianic norms, that have been opressing our sexuality to such a degree, that many outbursts of supressed sexuality can be seen these days, such as
(..extreme..) pornography, prostitution, the thing that catholic priests do due to suppressing their own sexuality and the sexuality of others and
spreading such ideology, silicone implants, and actually even having to put makeup (..24/7..) on, is an outcome of supressed sexuality in our
These outbursts (..of supressed sexuality - and the need to be a sexually self expressinhg being, as humans in their natural state are..) then attract
other peoples minds, who themselves live in a suppressed state of sexuality..
..which is why I see it the way, that we need to heal the whole point of perspective towards sexuality ( the whole society - what is considered as
good etc. ), before we can have fulfilling relationships, with multiple partners..
I personally believe that making love, where all people involved in it enjoy what is happening, can only be right... But it would be cool if peoples
ego's could see and appreaciate this too.. to accept such a thing as a normal natural part of living, if someone feels like that is ok.
I personally do not know what I see as being the best form of relationship for me, but this I do know: I do not want multiple women, with their fears
(and their families, with their expectations), around me, speculating about who of them I love the most..
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