posted on Mar, 10 2011 @ 08:42 PM
Current thinking seems to be for prolonging life at all costs, regardless of the individuals wishes. Surely when someone reaches that point when
enough is enough and the end in sight they should be allowed to die in peace, without having to suffer anymore.
My mum died about 4 years ago after a two year illness. The last time she went into hospital, I knew the end was near but they pumped her full of
expensive antibiotics. By then she was very frightened but still had not been told the true situation. I asked why they continued to treat her, and
looked at like an evil monster. The doctor told me, with obvious disdain in his voice, that she might get a few more weeks at home.
Weeks of what? Constant anxiety verging on panic, not able to get to the bathroom or make herself a cup of tea, very breathless, and understandably
depressed. Cognitively,she still had 'all her marbles' at 84 and well aware of what was happening, and was so scared. It was utterly
When I spoke to the actual consultant, he agreed it was time to stop the nonsence and told her the truth. She was actually quite relieved and the
anxiety lessened a little. I had tried to tell her myself but she 'wouldn't' hear it from me.
There then followed a rapid decline over two weeks and I remember her saying that they wouldn't let an animal endure this. It was horrible and I'l
never understand why she could not have the choice about having those last two weeks or not. Just before the end I flipped and literally screamed at
the staff that if they didn't do something I would, and knew she wanted me to smother her with a pillow - but I didn't, couldn't!
I spoke to many of the staff individually and they ALL AGREED they did not want to go like that, but collectively they towed the party line.
As a psychiatric nurse, I have recently cared for a couple of men in their 80's seperately, both of them making a serious attempt on their lives,
were physically unwell and widowed. Their lives had been artificially kept going with modern medicine and they were not allowed to die. Is this
From a different angle - has anyone wondered why the opium poppy is here on earth? It seems to me it could exist to 'help' us at the end of life.
I hope and pray that when my turn comes, that is now the case.