I'm sorry you have been offended here on ATS, but please also remember that this is an "opinion" site and some people's opinions differ from yours.
However, I would like to toss some thoughts your way...just for consideration. I don't have any "problem" with someone being gay, and I fully
understand that some people will always have issues with gay people. But what I do have issues with is the "this is who I am...I'm gonna stick it in
your face and force you to accept me" attitude. I don't know you, nor do I see this attitude from you, but, as you well know, there are many gay
people out there who do support this attitude.
The simple fact is that neither I, nor anyone else, has to "accept" someone else's way of life. Our society has fallen into this state where people
think everyone should accept them, regardless of who they are or what they do. We are permitted to look at another person and make a decision about
them from their actions...if we want. I can look at a drug addict and decide I don't like a person that can't control themselves. I can look at a
poor man and decide I don't like someone who mooches off the system. (NOTE: I am not implying these examples are always the case...just that they are
I do my best to understand a person as much as possible before making a decision about them, as it relates to me and my family. I am friends with
people that I wouldn't trust to baby-sit or be alone in my house...for example. Sometimes, however, we don't have the luxury of getting to know
someone due to time restraints, etc. In those cases, we are forced to categorize or label them. That is just how the human brain works..."this fits
into that". If I don't get to know you, I have to put you in my filing system in a folder, and I have to choose that folder by what I see...by my
first impression. And if that folder is not a category that I consider acceptable to me, for me...you are unfortunately still in that folder. I
understand that this fact sucks, but it is human nature to start to categorize things as soon as we encounter them.
I'm 46 years old with a wife and children. I have my moral beliefs and am 100% anti-religion. But my values dictate that there is acceptable
behavior and unacceptable behavior. There are standards and "the norm". When thinking of my children, their future, and how hard life is, in
general...I hope they are at least perceived as "normal" by others. They will have enough challenges in life being "normal". If one of them was gay,
etc...I wouldn't love them any less...I wouldn't treat them any differently. However...if they decide to show up to a party I was throwing with their
"friend" and start French-kissing or preaching views, demanding others accept those views...they probably wouldn't be invited to future parties...at
least not with the same guest list.
So, in summary...I don't really care what someone's personal situation is, unless it affects me. If it affects me, then I have to decided if I want
to be affected. That is my choice. If I decide that I don't like their way of life, what they do, how they act, etc...that is also my choice. It
doesn't mean I hate them...it doesn't even mean I can't be their friend...it doesn't mean they are bad, evil or deserving of prejudice. All it means
is that what they are, is not something I like. I don't like to eat cucumbers either...but I don't go out of my way to insult them...I just don't eat
So everyone should be who they are, like what they like and do what they do. They should make sure they are doing it for themselves...not others.
And if they are doing it for themselves, there is no need to "stick it" in other's faces. Sure...who you are will show, and it is too bad if someone
else doesn't like it. But unless you are doing it for others...there is no need for a parade, demand "marriage" instead of "domestic partnership",
etc. The only reason I can find for demanding this level of recognition, is in attempt to force others to accept things they don't have to. In doing
so...they are trying to "pick a fight" or forcing an argument.
There are things about me, things I may do in my personal life that some others wouldn't accept or like. Those things are personal and I don't demand
recognition or acceptance of them, by others. I don't have that right to demand someone likes me.
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