posted on Mar, 2 2011 @ 09:04 AM
I was 17 when I had my daughter, I dropped out of college and my Mom decided to move from NY (where we lived) to Flordia about a week after she was
born. Her father was in Hawaii and wanted (still doesn't, shes 11 now) nothing to do with us. Talk about poor choices, eh? Well 11 years on, I
have a well adjusted, smart, kind, 100 avg in school (yeah!), healthy child.
All odds were against me and anyone in their right mind would have said this little girl cannot have a baby....I did it though, all by myself, I have
had one partner since she was born and we are still together. I haven't had anymore children, although I wanted 8 kids and a farm! I didn't get
the start in life that I had anticipated and thought it best to control my maternal instincts.
The point I am making is this, had there been an "IQ test" or "compency test" I would have failed miserably, but in action I have succeeded beyond
my own imagination. I understand that there are alot of really crappy parents out there, I know some. They are not all teenage drop outs either,
some of the worst I know are from middle class, middle aged parents. People that you might think were perfectly suited to procreate.
I see alot of really, really crappy parents too, that just have kids to stay on welfare, their children grow up to be criminals, the children never
get an opportunity to succeed, they get no direction from their parents. One little girl (2 years old) in our area was starving to death, surviving
on dry macaroni from the cupboard. They only found out that she was in need of help after her parents poured neat bleach on her as punishment for
something. These are the people that I wish would not have children, but like I said previously, who are we to decide and if it came down to it, who
would make the decision? I agree we need to curb population, it would be a better world for everyone, but the whole point in being alive is to
procreate. It's a very fine line between common sense and a complete loss of freedom.