Originally posted by halfoldman
How come when we break a material thing we can pay for it, but when we break a emotional thing all the money in the world won't last.
This is going to sound out there..
The emotional hurt is being held in by us, we cling to it as a way to justify things in our life.
We are afraid to Feel each issue totally, so we suppress it, and it in turn creates symptoms in our lives.
Let me share something I have not told many people....
My father is a Viet Nam veteran, a very changed man to the one who went to that "war". Very violent, very angry and very much full of Pain for what he
did while fighting. So my sister and I got flogged every day of our lives, we got punched left right and centre, we watched our Mum get the same
treatment and we all Hated him for it.
Many years later, after reading everything I could from people who had been in that "war" and listening to the few who were there that would talk
about it, I learned something important about my Dad. It made me sit up and take note of MY holding onto issues from our life.
What I learned was that he had done the best he could in his particular circumstances. And, I understood that no one knows what you would do in the
exact same circumtances.
I knew he hated himself even more for hurting us, and I knew he needed forgiveness and understanding instead of our hatred and anger which we Held
onto to somehow Make Us Feel Better.
When I really felt empathy for the man I was able to move past the things I was holding onto.. and then I was able to really feel forgivenebss and
gave it to him with a soft, long hug and the appropriate words.
He still carries his inner pain from the "war", but he is at least free of me forcing him to hold onto an issue that has no place in the world now.
And I am Free of it.
If I can forgive then so can you my friend... and you will love the freedom that comes with it.
edit on 26-2-2011 by Tayesin because: coz I am
a silly old git who can't spell anymore