Originally posted by Gorman91
reply to post by Kailassa
Well to be frank, then you shouldn't have kids. Not that they should be killed because you're unfit, but that they should be given to people who are
fit. I've never needed emotional anything in my life. And yes, I thing that's because I never connected with my parents and so had to make up my own
parents from historic figures and characters in books. I've never been able to understand the need to become dependent on emotions. Much more, it
seems emotions should be a tool used to measure a situation, not to let them get in the way of functionality. And this certainly is not a gender
issue. Dear sister is the same way. Granted she's an emotional wreck because of school instead of parents, it's no different really. Through
different means we've come to the same conclusion. Emotions are useless for telling you hot to respond to a situation. Much rather, they are good
deductions of a situation, to then be responded to logically and with thought.
So no offense to you and your kin, but you're simply going about it the wrong way. You don't need emotions to be a parent. Kids like them, but
ultimately you're a good parent by teaching the little tots how not to be dumb. You can laugh together, and have fun together, but then you have to
smack them one for being dumb. You're not a friend. You're a parent. But you can be a friend when it's time to be one.
And if the dude gets away with it, we have financial aid. I fail to see still how it's a problem. And if it is, you really should just give up the
kid. How that affects you emotionally is purely you free choice to respond to or not. Me and my sister probably would just know what is right and not
honestly care if emotions say it's sad.
I posted in reply to you to teach you something about an experience which you have not had. You will never be a single mother, with no support, with
three children to bring up. Yet instead of listening and learning, you arrogantly lecture me and tell me I shouldn't be a mother!
Your judgemental attitude is typical of people who are strongly anti-choice. They are always the first to turn on the women who do choose to not have
abortions and to raise their children on their own. You tell me to not take offence, and then say I'm an unfit mother and my children should be taken
away. And all this with no experience whatsoever of life as a single mother. I guarantee that no-one else, having to cope as I have, would have done
One thing I had not mentioned was that my children each had different, completely unrelated, congenital handicaps. However a daughter with both
numeric and spelling dyslexia and slight Down Syndrome is now an executive in a prestigious company, an autistic son is doing well at uni and
performing, singing and playing guitar,and my very handicapped son, with an IQ of 60, can shop and cook, play many computer games, and is quality
control officer at a nursery. Not only that, but they are all happy, though I guess you think happiness a waste of energy.
And btw, smacking a kid for being "dumb"?
My children are now in their thirties. They have turned out well, I'm proud of them all, and they are all glad to have me as their mother. I have
also been part time mother to a niece and nephew who have parents with no emotions. The kids have stayed here when they've wanted some warmth, wanted
to feel cared for, or needed a shoulder to cry on. And I've fostered a baby with "fail to thrive" until she was healthy enough to adopt out.
Even giving away Theresa, my little foster baby, half broke my heart. I could never have parted with my own children.
I suggest, Gorman, instead of judging mothers, you and your sister go and get treatment for Alexithymia .
(The alexithymic person, generally, is rigid, constricted, anxious, and withdrawn. He or she has difficulties experiencing and expressing emotion,
lacks imagination, and is literal, socially conforming, and pragmatic. The patient is humourless, and lacks insight.)