Originally posted by ErtaiNaGia
But... they WERE....
Uhm.. I don't think "Correlate" is the word that you are looking for.
Maybe correlation is not the best word, basically I meant linked directly.
The research showed that on average people who are higher IQ have lower sexual activity. That is true.
Although the conclusion based on these numbers is wrong. It is not because of the IQ, but other reasons, why more intelligent people tend to be less
popular among the opposite sex.
No, they do not "Self-Isolate", the majority of the population rejects them.
The fact that you are stating the opposite of what actually happens, is a PROBLEM.
I agree rejecting might be a better word, although in a way it is also a self-isolation.Again the conclusion is wrong. I can tell you from personal
experience. Nobody ignores somebody because they are smart. They are ignored for other reasons.
Smarter kids tend to talk smart. They know more and they want to tell about it to others. Smart people need to use their knowledge in their advantage
instead of using it as their weakness, which many do. You have understand what is perceived as cool and what is not, what is fun, what is not. What
may sound fun for you, might not sound boring to another person. Many people do that mistake.
What creates friends? Similar interests is the most common factor among friends (or knowing each other for a long time). If there are hundreds kids
who are interested in one thing and 5 kids are interested in something else and there are nearly no matching hobbies, the 5 kids are rejected, unless
their hobbies or they are considered cool in some other way (fun to hang out with, good sense of humour, very cool hobbies etc).
Would you say that intelligent people are also attacked/bullied more often than non-intelligent people?
What do you think this would do to their "Social Skills"?
It is their difference and popularity. Unless a person is considered cool or "in", they are bullied. Social awkwardness which is common among many
younger intelligent kids is a way to get bullied.
So, they don't want to talk about stuff that they don't want to talk about...
But we have to talk about stuff that we don't want to talk about?
There is is more of average/lower intelligence people than smart people.
Golden rule of public speaking and conversations: consider your audience. You have adapt to them. Talk about stuff that interests them, not the stuff
that interest you, unless these match.
If I am interested in opera, I talk about with people who are interested in it, not the people who only care about video games, electronic music, 9gag
and facebook. With them I talk about these matters, what they are interested in. Of course there are less people who are interested in the first
matter. If I only talked with them, I would have only a few friends. Although a smart person can find interest in basically anything if they want to
and as they learn fast, it is not hard to know about different fields. I can talk about the latest technology, d different mind sports, cultural
activities and comics just as I can talk about the life of Hollywood starts, soccer, latest movies and what is happening in the local club scene
(visiting artists etc). Wide horizon is easy to achieve for us
Another thing I have noticed many smarter people have problems with is just "bullsh*ting around" about anything. Often smarter people tend to want
everything they say to have a meaning, although majority of people doesn´t care about it. Gossiping, talking about women, just chit-chat is the most
common thing people talk about.
Do you think that enjoying discussing things that the majority do not enjoy talking about also has a negative effect on their social skills?
Yes. It is called social experience. Just like anything you also gain experience when talking to people. You gain the experience when to say
something, how to say it, where to say it, whom to say it. If you discuss such things a lot people (especially if they do not find it interesting)
they ignore you. The more people you talk to, the more experience you get. When people ignore, you have less people to talk to, you gain less
experience, which may often lead to social awkwardness.
edit on 30-4-2013 by Cabin because: (no reason given)